father not seeing child

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I have a 7 yr old and a 5month old by the same father. He does not see the little one or ask after her .I have tried to get him to see her but he just says I'll see her when she's older.I'm now thinking this is ridiculous she doesn't know him he hasn't bonded with her and I don't feel it's right that he can just decide when he feels like it in the future to see her! He see's the other one regularly - also he has just bought himself an expensive car and a 5 bedroom house while I live in a small two bedroom flat should I be thinking he should contribute to me getting a bigger house?

I would make it clear that if he he doesn't start having contact with the baby then he walks away now and there will never be a time where he can just walk into the baby life.

What he means is, I'll see her after you've done all of the feeding, sleepless nights, shitty nappies etc. He only wants to spend time with her when she can interact with him and doesn't need a great deal of care. I'm with ICanSeeTheSun. There will be no relationship there, no attachment. You may as well send her to spend the day with the bloke from the checkout at Tesco, as she'll see him in the same way.

He shouldnt contribute to you getting a bigger house!

He should be contributing 20% of his wage though.

Its strange that he sees the eldest but not the youngest... Is there a back story there?

We have always been off/on and to begin with when he found out I was pregnant with second he was pleased but then changed his mind after I was three months so I moved out as our relationship was so awful. The whole time I was pregnant he seemed to pretend it wasn't happening and still is! I have tried on many occasions to get him to have a relationship but he's adamant he doesn't " want to look after a baby" even though Ive said come and see her not look after her! I'm so sad that he's missing out she is the most delightful baby im appalled! Now I feel he doesn't deserve to see her in the future but im worried how this will affect my older boy!