To not like PIL letting themselves in without telling us

[uptheauntie]

I just am not sure if AIBU here.

ILs have a key for our house for emergencies or letting themselves in on the rare occasion they pick up DD from nursery. we are not exceptionally close, we would never pop round to each other's house without it being pre arranged.

I arrived home from work tonight, let myself into the house (was first home) and there was something for DH sitting in the hall. something from the PILS. He didn't need this/ask for this thing, so it certainly wasn't a matter of urgency.

neither myself or DH have received any texts or calls from ILs to say they were going to drop something in/dropped something in. But I know they have.

AIBU to have expected warning or notification? I don't think they would nosey around but something just doesn't sit comfortably with me about it.

For this reason, no one has a spare key to our house. Yanbu.

If that was/is the worst of it then I would worry.

For about £30, you can buy a key safe which you can bolt to the wall of your house. They come with changeable code numbers (very easy to change). Get the key back off them (or change the locks because the key got "lost"). You can give out the number when you need to but change it regularly "for security".

Also - this is what bolts and key chains are for, so that people CANT walk in and surprise you...

Maybe all they did was pop it into the hall and leave?

My pils developed a habit of letting themselves into our house. It made me uncomfortable. Not because I thought they'd burgle us or anything, I just felt that our boundaries weren't being respected.

It was easily solved: we invented a visit from a friend, who would need a key to get in, and asked for their key to lend to him. We've never gotten around to giving it back and probably never will

goop, I do think that is all they did tbh. But the fact they thought it was fine to come round and let themselves in without thinking to mention to us, pre or post the event, just doesn't sit right with me.

Tell them that then rather than mumsnet. I wouldn't like it and would tell the person concerned that I wasn't happy with a key to my house being used without my knowledge.