To ask a morbid question

[Skychangesky]

I am not sure.

Dd is 2 months old. I am a single mum.

If I die (god forbid but it could happen) what would happen to her?

Would she be adopted?

is her father's name on her birth cert ?

What provision does your will make for her?

are you still married to someone ?

I wonder this with my dd. her father will never be allowed contact because of crimes he committed and I have no family.

Make a will. Name who you want to become her guardian should you pass away.

Do you have a will? Nominate guardians!

I've never been married. Her dad doesn't actually know she exists (he doesn't live in the UK.)

I don't have family - I have no idea what to put on my will!

If I had people to take her I wouldn't be asking here!

There just isn't anyone - so if (hope not but) if I died - would she be taken into care?

Have you made a will?

I would advise you to make a will, and that will involve appointing a guardian.

We did ours through a will making company, rather than a Solicitor, as it was much cheaper.I will PM you with the company we used, if you like.

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I'm trying to make a will but it's hard as I just don't have anybody who could take her.

I have substantial capital to leave her in terms of property - sweet fa in terms of cold hard cash! - but obviously she can't manage that herself.

Maybe contact Gingerbread, the single parents' organisation for advice?

there is a mumsnetter who does wills who offers a discount and will talk you through the process on the phone

You don't have any close friends?

In a will, you would nominate a guardian (a friend in the absence of family members). If you can't do this (no-one appropriate) then yes, she would be taken into care and i think your assets put in a trust for her.

It doesn't have to be family - could be friends? If you don't have anyone at all who would be able to take her in, I think she would be taken into state care and then adopted (probably fairly quickly because they'd know you weren't going to come back, and people like to adopt babies if possible).

Thanks, that's kind.

The main concern really is how to actually negotiate the process: it goes without saying everything I have is DDs.

I do plan on having a talk with her when she's old enough explaining what to do if I die but if it happens before she's old enough to process that information - cripes.

I've no reason to think I would die but then - well no one does do they!?

Steff - I've got friends of course but no one who could just take a baby until she's 18!

I am named as guardian of the two DCs of a friend. She has some family but none are remotely suitable to take on the children so they would come to me and DP. Is there a friend who you could name?

X-post. Have you mentioned your worries to your friends?

We have no family who could take our dd's... We've asked our friends if they'd have them and they said yes. They now come to see the girls every couple of weeks so they'll always have a relationship with them. It's quite lovely!

Google Marlow Wills or search for the poster mumblechum1

Just had a look; yes she'd be taken into care if you didn't name a guardian/s. you could name more than one and they'd be responsible for deciding who was to care for her.

I presume, though that the courts might attempt to contact her father to discern whether he could take over care of her, but it seems it would be their decision as to his suitability.

Is he named on the birth certificate?

disclaimer: just googled this!

Maybe post in Legal too?

Thanks very much.

Friends just aren't suitable. Nothing personal to them - just that they aren't (for a variety of reasons) people I could ask.

DD's Dad is not a resident or citizen of the UK: I don't know how to contact him to be honest. Maybe the court would have more luck - can't see it!

Thanks AF [ flowers]