Only to make my nearly 7 year old 2 slices of toast?

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Very trivial, I know (first world problem)

I make all 3 kids 2 rounds of toast, if toast is what they want for breakfast.

If nearly 7 yo wants more, AIBU to say he can have up to 2 more slices, but only if he makes it himself? Same rule would apply to his older sister, but as she never wants more than 2 slices he feels life is terribly unfair.

He is fully capable of making toast, his concern is that he makes holes when buttering it :o

Why is porage or yoghurt better than toast?

Not what you asked but do you mean that you are buttering the toast for all 3 kids? I find that a bit strange, surely your ds and older dd should be able to manage that. My dd (7) has done this for the last 3 years at least! She gets her plate and knife and whatever else she wants on the toast. I do do the toast but only because she can't easily reach the toaster.

If someone put buttered toast in front of me I would probably keep eating it!

Restricting food is part of nutritional education. If I never restricted, my DC would eat entire packs of biscuits! I'm not going to allow them to eat 4 rounds of toast either...that's far too much bread in one go.

Hak Porridge releases energy slowly for longer. Bread is nutritionally ok but it's not great.

Toast is just empty carbs that won't fill him up, if anything will make him more hungry. Porridge does the same to me too - no way does it 'keep me going until lunchtime'

Egg on toast or an omelette is a better idea.

However, if they want toast, do you keep your butter in the fridge? Because that's usually what makes it hard to spread and makes holes. Butter doesn't need to be kept in the fridge. In the hot summer, just put half or a third of a pack out at the time, but the rest of the year, it is fine out of the fridge for a week or two at least.

I have eating disorders, so food is a tricky issue for me. I try to encourage my DCs to self-regulate and always reassure them that they can have some more later (ie are you sure you have room for another piece of cake - you can have some tomorrow).

I also try not to overload them with carbs, so if my 7yo was still hungry after 2 pieces of toast, I would offer him an egg / cheese / fromage frais etc.

I have a slim dc who eats a lot, a slim dc who eats like a bird and a chubby dc who chooses the thing he likes the most from a meal and eats that until it's gone from the table before considering anything else (this may be peas, but can also be spaghetti, roast potatoes, etc, so really have to watch him). They were all bf - the one who is a bit chubby was bf exclusively for 10 months as he had no interest in solids and became Rubenesque on breast milk. All dc are different and you can't generalise about appetites/self regulating/learned behaviour - if I'd just had dcs 1 and 2 I would have been smug about having slim, self regulating dc, but dc3 has shown me otherwise. Dh and I are slim and active.

My mother was (is) very controlling about food, and I am overweight and have an anorexic sister who's life was at serious risk from it in her late teens, and another who binged and vomited through her teens and 20s, so am not about to be controlling about food! My mother is extreme though - she wants to control exactly what everyone eats, so is "a feeder" who coaxes, threatens, bribes, begs, emotionally blackmails children into eating if she feels that at that meal they haven't eaten enough, but is very blatent and verbal about restricting when she feels appropriate, and as soom as girls hit puberty its smaller plates "just have half", watch your weight, endless comments on everybody's weight...

DS1 doesn't like eggs, so egg breakfasts are out for him. He'd happily have a German cold meat breakfast (with bread) and we do sometimes (we live in Germany). Toast isn't our norm as I only buy "toast bread" once a week with the Aldi shop, otherwise its various homemade breads or bakery breads, which we tend not to toast. Yoghurt and Fromage Frais are full if sugar or artificial sweetners - he'd happily eat yoghurt as part of nreakfast, but he has one or two after lunch, not sure they are that great that he should be encouraged to eat more...

Kids are very active, in that they are outside on bikes, in playground or playing football most of the day, though not doing 10 mile hikes... They only tend to come in to eat in summer :o

YANBU, sounds fine to me.

We are not obese combust! Nor leaning towards it.