to think that aibu is changing my personality?

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In a good way. If you just take it with a massive pinch of salt?

Has anyone else found this?

Mad though AIBU is, I think over time it has helped me be more able to see that there is always another valid point of view. And it's helped me realise quite how stuck-to-their-opinions some people can be.

Meh. Hasn't changed mine any, too many extreme opinions for me to take too seriously. But it's a nice time waster during the day to chat with people.

Definitely. AIBU and MN in general has made me realise I don't need to be a doormat and also realising things aren't always black or white.

It's brilliant! Doesn't matter what stance you take on something. Someone somewhere thinks you're an idiot! I'm childish enough to find this hilarious.

Yes. If nothing else it should show you that no matter what you think, you can't please everyone. So you might as well do what works for you and what makes you happy. :)

I do find myself thinking up aibu in my day to day life. I never post them on hear. But its like my normal train of thought now.

Definitely changed me. I'm more able to answer my own dilemmas and predict another pov. Feel much more confident as a mum too. Oh and more able to be assertive in my relationship. It pisses me right off at times with the same boring accusations of entitlement and preciousness but overall it's a good thing in my life.

Agree with many pp. Aibu (and relationships) teaches you to stand up for yourself.

It has made be incredibly intolerant of meek and mild people though. People who put up with being treated like crap and don't do anything to change it really wind me up now.

I don't know if thats good or bed.

floop totally! It's infuriating! Coming from an ex doormat.

It has made be incredibly intolerant of meek and mild people though. People who put up with being treated like crap and don't do anything to change it really wind me up now.

Huh. It's actually done the opposite for me. It's always been a pet peeve to see people put up with crap. Knowing people in abusive relationships, I've always wanted to scream "Why don't you just leave??".

I think AIBU has helped me see why some people do put up with it, and how it's not easy to "just" leave. It helps to understand that a one off incident isn't a one off, it's an accumulation of mental abuse that has led up to that moment and now they're too afraid/feeling too worthless to stand up for themselves.

ok, so it has helped me see from different pov's, which is good

I certainly think AIBU, Relationships and FWR have honed my ability to put my point across in the most clear and succinct ways that previously I might have waffled a bit about

I agree. Has made me say what I mean/want more and be more direct. Also often think up aibus that inever post (can usually guess the answer anyway!)

But everyone agreed with me about my MIL so now I can't hate the nobs

Agree, I'm more consciously assertive and thicker skinned (something I've been working on for years) for reading AIBU/Relationships, and more aware too when I may be being intolerant and need to think of a wider perspective.

I find it incredibly helpful when other women post their 'script' of how they would reply or respond to something, I learn a lot from them. (Particularly the sweary/brilliantly snubbing replies that I say in my head if not aloud and make me feel so much better)