To get frustrated when DD has friends round?

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Because she won't just take them into her bedroom and play?

They either end up just randomly standing downstairs whilst I'm trying to get on with things, OR doing something that is annoying and/or takes over the whole house, for example going from room to room opening and shutting doors constantly and playing in mine and DH's room, or constantly going in and out of the front door and leaving it open, so the dogs escape etc.

Last week she brought in 2 neighbours' children to play and they all kept forgetting things they'd left downstairs and charging up and down the stairs. They must have all gone up and down the staircase 50 times....

When I was a child if I had a friend over I was expected to play with them in my room. I certainly never took over the whole house with a game or just stood in the kitchen for 2 hours with a friend.

DD is 10 btw

Dd is 6 and if she doesnt go in her room then I chuck them out to the park if after a couple of warnings she doesnt do it. She does it then.

YABU

I agree it's annoying but if my DSs have friends over I ban them from my rom but they pretty much have the run of the rest of the house if it is wet outside. Rules are the same as ever, don't break anything, no jumping on furniture, but they like to play war games that go up and down the stairs etc....

If it is dry I send them to the park.

How old? My DD is 10 and she and her friend today tried to sit in the sitting room with me, they wanted to watch tv, eat and sew!

I booted them into her bedroom and they know NEVER to go in my room!

Get a bit tougher op.

Melissa do you send a 6 year old to the park alone?

I just say look are you in or are you out? If your in go and play in your room if not go back to the park instead of wondering round the house. Then they usually decide whether they are going in room or they go out.

God, DS is 11 and he knows that my room is totally off limits when friends are round. You need some boundaries there, I think!

DD knows the rules but whenever anyone is in the house she seems to forget them and gets a bit huffy and whingey when I remind her of them.

The standing downstairs thing really annoys me as I usually let her have a friend round so that I can get on with jobs, and I don't always want to be watched or have to make a conversation with other peoples' kids.

Yes...I hate it when they linger near me. I just say "Go on...push off!" with a big smile and they do.

I think with this you need to be strict as I think the same. Dd is out a lot in and out other kids houses I dont want her doing it to other peoples parents as its really annoying. Im just as strict on the other kids as my own and when shes out and about others are just as strict on the lot of them.

Tell her!!!
Or don't let them in.

Isnt 6 a bit young to be going to the park without adult supervision? I would go ballistic if my dd went to someone's house to play and they sent her to the park. My dd is 9.

I'd not be happy too if my child was sent unsupervised at a young age without my consent.

Our house is home to all of is, as long as they don't play in my room they can play where they like.

You need house rules for the playdates!!

My DDs are 10 and 12. While they pretty much have the run of the house, our bedroom is off limits. And if we want to watch TV, the sitting room is off limits. My DDs have the responsibility of ensuring these rules are kept.
I have no problem asking children to leave any room where I'm either working (Kitchen, etc) or relaxing (Sitting Room). I just keep an upbeat voice, and say 'now girls, I'm doing so and so here, find another room to hang out in...'

OP you have to toughen up here! "She gets a but huffy and whingey" erm, so what? Are you scared of upsetting her ?

Tell her she abides by the rules or she cannot have friends round - just chuck them out.

Get tough.

Visiting children never allowed in adults bedrooms.
Letting the dog out is a stupid thing to do, and is therefore NOT ALLOWED

Transgressors get booted out.

They'll soon learn you're not such a pushover.

Lem - All same road, all samr community. Everyone knows and hangs arounf with everyone else. DD spends time with the oaps to the little ones in different peoples houses or the park. We live in an old school community where your neighbours are all close community relationships.

My kids are not allowed in my room unless I am on it (or DH is), but it is also the office and full of paperwork and computer wires etc. So they never take friends up there, I'd be properly cross if they did.

Apart from that they sort of have the run of the house with friends, but I don't hestiate to kick them out of the kitxhen if they are getting underfoot, or of living room if they are disturbing a sibling who is reading/ napping (DC3 occassionally naps on the sofa) or doing a quiet activity. We also have a rule that they can't exclude siblings in the common areas of the house, but if they want to play with friend without siblings they can shut the door pf their own room - this means DD who is 8, nearly 9, very often takes friends to her room to avoid her brothets!

If its dry I almost always kick them outdoirs for at least an hour, more if they are being loud or getting in my way - though usually they choose to be outside mostly if it is dry.

Melissa -it sounds idyllic.

You're going to have to stick to your guns and tell her friends in her room (and no charging up and downstairs) or no friends over.