Shouldn't annoy me but it does

[Lozzle12]

My soon to be parents in law are very nice and we get on well. They're a bit straight-laced in the sense that they're quite fussy and goody-two shoes and this is just the daftest problem ever but really bugs me...

Now i do slightly temper my personality when i'm with them, in the sense that they're not the type you have a milllion laughs with when you're with them and the conversation can be slightly serious but like i said i get on well with them.

One thing is that my soon to be mil seems to have me down as some kind of tee-totaller and a bit tame. Seems to be what she implies? She does like to make out she drinks a bit and i feel a bit rolly-eyed about that kind of thing in general. She said yesterday...I bet Lozzle has never been drunk. Said in a kind of patronising, are you sweet kind of way. God it kills me. Appreciate i'm being totally unreasonable but how do you nip this kind of thing in the bud?? She's in for a shock at our wedding.

Why don't you just act yourself? Just say to get I do like a drink wonder where you got that idea from?

ObfusKate, it's so annoying isn't it? It's SO trivial but it's irritating. I do act myself but they're quite serious so i'm not 100% myself. She seems to go on about drinking almost like it's a badge of honour but i see no evidence of her being a party animal. Eg, i remark in passing that I don't really drink in the house or if i'm alone, and she says "oooh i do". I just hate the assumption that she's really fun because she does. She's not, she's actually a bit dull and serious. Lovely, and i think highly of her, but I'm desperate for a good laugh when i leave her company after spending an extended period of time with her.

Haha ObfusKate - you absolute lunatic!!!

Perhaps you can ask her?

The next time she says something like "I bet Lozzle has never been drunk" reply with "why do you think so?" or "what makes you say that?" or "what an odd assumption to make" and she what she says.

My MIL went through a stage of telling everybody she knew that I was "wacky" which pissed me off no end. When I finally asked her why she kept telling everyone that I found out it was based entirely on the fact that she once saw me wearing a sun hat.

Apparently nobody she had ever met before in her life wore a hat in the sun and in her opinion wearing hats is the equivalent of running around in cartoon characters socks and saying "I'm mad, I am" at parties and whatnot.

We met and married very quickly, so I didn't meet a lot of DH's relatives until our wedding day, and I felt like they were all expecting to see him marry Su Pollard or somebody.

So, what is the problem?

My in laws assigned me the role of communist and acted like I was personally responsible for every thing tony blair uttered. It was draining. They seem to have gotten over it now. I think it is nerve wracking getting on with a new daughter in law

So basically you're saying that you think that you're lots more fun than your rather dull future MIL is and it annoys you that she thinks she's more fun than you are. Is that it?

You think they're very straight-laced, so you 'tone down' your behaviour with them.

But now you're annoyed because they believe in the 'toned down' version?

Not sure I get it. Be yourself. Challenge stupid statements.

So if she says 'I bet Lozzle has never been drunk' frown and look slighlty confused, and ask "What on earth makes you think that?" - get her to think about what she's saying. Let her get to know you, not some version of you that you think you have to be around her.

I'm a bit puzzled too. Why don't you go out for a meal or something so she can see you have a drink? Mind you she'll probably start trying to imply your a raging alcoholic then!!

She sounds like my BIL. He thinks he is the only person who has ever exercised, took part in a competitive sport and eaten an optimal diet. The last one makes me laugh alot as he lectures everyone who ever eats something that doesn't comply with what he regards as the right things to eat about how bad it is. What he never knew until quite recently is that I have a degree in nutrition and 5 years experience working in this field, but i never pointed that out to him. My husband told him eventually and he hasn't said a word about food to me since. I know that he is waiting for an opportunity to challenge me on something though but I wont ever give him the chance. Its more amusing to me to know it bugs him that he wants to assert that he is better informed and superior to me but can't. He also gets all of his information from spurious websites, books that are 'selling' certain diets and people who sell sports supplements so most of what he spouts on about isn't even with saying.

That said, he is a lovely guy and i get on with him really well. Its just his quirk.

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Legionofboom - ultimately, yes i suppose I am. Not point scoring - i really couldn't give a shit if she thinks i'm boring but it just strikes me as such an odd thing to constantly bang on about when she knows full well we have fun. Never mind. Not really a problem.

I have no idea what my MIL thinks of me but she was heard to remark that she had no idea that our wedding was going to be 'so CATHOLIC!!'
It wasn't even a full catholic service as DH was CofE At the time. There were a couple of priests milling about after but they are cousins. She was a bit surprised when DH converted to Catholicism a couple of years later and she spent a couple of months looking at him in a surprised way when he brought it up in conversations.

Get totally hammered at her house and puke all over her carpet?

The wacky hat was just a plain denim hat, pale blue, small brim all the way around it.

Nothing that unusual about it, other than the fact that I had it on my head in public and clearly looked like I should be leading the clown parade or something