It was my 40th birthday earlier his year. I had a party, singer, buffet, booze. I kept this party quite small as I didn't want a huge fuss and if I'm honest I only had a party because my husband was on the verge of organising a surprise party.
Anyway it was a lovely evening and I am so glad I went ahead with it. On a sad note though my best friend lives in Australia so could not make it…she had arranged to Skype me during the evening which was such a lovely surprise.
One of my oldest friend had confirmed she was coming and had asked for details of hotels nearby which I provided along with the offer to stay at my house. Anyway the night before we were chatting and she said she had not booked a room but was planning on doing so in the morning.
Twenty minutes before my party I receive a text for oldest friend stating that she would not make my party as her husband was ill. No problem, these things happen don't they? I replied telling her I would miss her but completely understand and we could do something together another time.
Anyway, it is now 6 months later and not only have I never received a birthday card from my friend but not once has she even text me. I was just chatting with my husband about this and told him that I felt hurt, especially as we have had other life events happen in this time and she has not even text me. My husband said that he think she never intended to come to my party…he is right isn't he?
I feel stupid. This has played on my mind so much. If she had just said thanks for the invite but I can't make it I would not have even given it a second thought. Now i just feel like the whole 'i'd love to come' convo was a charade. I feel shit now.