To expect boss not to scream

[Sunnydays999]

When ever anything goes wrong she rants like a petulant child screaming and banging on tables .i like the job but she rants at everyone - apart from leVe how would you deal with her ? I have PTSD so tend to freeze when she starts -or cry

Leave.

Urgently and vociferously call attention to one’s views or feelings, especially ones of anger or distress

One of the definitions of Scream.

And my boss used to scream, before or after verbalising she would:

Give a long, loud, piercing cry or cries expressing extreme emotion

so yeah, Scream.

Happy again - because she was screaming - screaming so much it was like a tantrum

My reasons for wanting to stay
Fits in with school hours and part time
Very local
I actually like the job just not her
She is pregnant and will be off a year

Reasons for wanting to leave
My mental health &self worth basically

It is the first time she a done it to me . I'm going in today quite on edge but I can't afford to leave

Good luck today! How about waiting to see if she apologises for her lack of control? If not, bring the subject up and say that it made you uncomfortable...

I suspect that Happy thinks that screaming is non-verbal, just sounds, whereas shouting is loud words. In fact I think screaming has a touch of hysteria, high pitched, uncontrolled volume, but can include words...
Anyway, I work with someone just the same. He will shout, scream, bang things on the table. I've made written complaints about him; nothing gets done. Luckily I don't have a lot to do with him.
No other advice op, other than leave.

I once worked a for a man who used to go off on one regularly. He was actually a really nice man. One morning we were waiting for a delivery from a supplier and it was late. He started ranting and raving and taking it out on me.

I took a deep breath and in a loud voice said "Will you stop shouting at me. It's not my fault the delivery is late. You are making it seem as if it is my fault and there is nothing I can do about it"

He went silent and in a very meek voice apologised. He hadn't realised what he was doing. He calmed down after that.

It is really hard to stand up to people like that, but I think you need to find the courage to say something in a similar vein. There is just a chance that this woman doesn't realise what a fool she is making of herself.

Good luck Sunnydays999 let's hope she takes a long maternity break.

I had a boss like this when I was in my first job. I let her have it out whilst she screamed at me in front of the whole team and then at the end of the day when there was no one around, I knocked on her office door and asked for a chat.

I said to her that I had been very perturbed by what had happened earlier in the day. If there was a problem and I'd done something wrong I was more than happy to hold my hands up, say sorry and put things right but I didn't appreciate being shouted at in front of the whole department.

She took a breathe, looked at me and said, 'You know what, pet? You're right. It won't happen again.' And it didn't. She had the whole of the sales team (a cocky chauvinistic lot on the run) but she was always delightful to me after that. I think she realised her behaviour was unacceptable and she liked the fact that some young girl in the office respectfully told her that it wasn't on (in a way that allowed her her pride).

Maybe you could do something similar?

As soon as she starts, leave the room. If you can, say "I'll come back when you've calmed down"

Even if you have to go to the bathroom to cry, do that. Just get away from her. I've had PTSD and it sucks. Don't let her behaviour trigger things off for you, simply remove yourself.

How did it go Sunny?