To be fed up of friends moaning?

[CundtBake]

I genuinely don't know if I'm being unreasonable/projecting or not.

My friend is married with one child. I am a single mum also with one child. Friend is much better off than I am, lives in a lovely 3 bed flat, her and her husband buy all the latest gadgets, go on holidays, can generally buy little treats as and when they please. Her son is more often than not with his grandparents, who take him for weeks at a time.

I have just returned from friends house utterly drained. She spent the whole time I was there moaning about her life. About how she can't afford the thing she wants, about how difficult it is having a child, how she's sick of her life etc.

I am on my own and live on peanuts. I have very minimum help from DS's dad and nobody else. I'm constantly stressing about bills and rent and how I will afford enough food for the month. It kills me that I can't afford nice days out or little treats for DS.

I know that everyone is entitled to feel down sometimes, but she is constantly moaning at me about how unfair her life is and I'm left wondering what on earth she must think about my life. I can't help feeling that she's very ungrateful.

I probably am being unreasonable. But I need a rant.

Does she realise how tight money is for you? Or is she just whining on without knowing?

YANBU, she sounds rude and insensitive.

She definitely knows how tight things are for me as I have told her a few times when I've not been able to afford a proper food shop/when I can't afford to go on days out with her or even travel money to come to her house.

I just feel so shit and a bit angry every time she goes off on one.

She sounds grossly insensitive. I hope you have other friends who would be more understanding? It's fine to moan and we probably all do it, but don't moan about your slight cold to the person with cancer; don't moan about work stress to the person who's been made redundant, etc etc.

How would she react if you looked her in the eye and said, "I'd love to be able to afford the things you buy."?

You need to protect yourself emotionally. That extra money clearly isn't bringing her joy.