DS' Dad - early drop off?

[HappyGoLuckyGirl]

DS' Dad has him two days through the week and sometimes 1 overnight too.

No overnight this weekend. I dropped DS off at 7.30am at his dad's. I've just got a message from exP saying he is going to have to drop DS off an hour earlier today because, and I quote, "I have a store meeting at 5.30 that I can't get out of".

Today is sunday, the store he works at shuts at 4pm. Plus today is his day off and it's awfully short notice. My BS radar is screaming at me.

HIBU to say that DS is his responsibility until 6pm and if he has forgetten something he needs to do then he needs to make alternative arrangements for the work thing or DS. He has said he will ask his Mum to watch DS until 6pm.

AIBU? I feel like a bitch as he is my Son. But I get 1 day to myself! And this week it's only about 10 hours. Sick of him doing this!

*forgotten.

No, YANBU.

If it's in his time, it's his responsibility to ensure he has childcare to drop your DS off at the right time.

He has no idea where you are so text him "Sorry I can't get back that early, see you at 6pm"

Call his bluff. Tell him you'll collect DS from the store at 5:25 so he can make his meeting.

Obviously you will need to remain parked there to MN for a while...

How old is your son? I don't think YABU, it's really annoying but if it was me I'd be home for my son anyway rather than making him be passed around for the sake of an hour (and possibly feel like a burden depending on his age). I'd have him home this time, then ring exP and tell him that if this should happen again, you expect him to make alternative arrangements until 6pm.

Yep, send a vague text saying you are out and about and will pick DS up from the store at 5.25,but you are about to go to an area where you will have no mobile signal, and then camp out and see what happens.

Honestly, I think you're overreacting about an hour.

He's now said he'll return her at the original time, so where's the problem?

He sounds annoying but it's only an hour and not worth the fight, maybe he could have ds more often than twice a week?

I don't see the problem.

He has said he will get his mum to watch ds until 6pm.

Surely you'd prefer being given the option to have your son home early before he asks others to babysit?

I do get the frustration when contact arrangements are changed, but I have always found it's best to be flexible. Unless you have never asked to deviate from the contact arrangement even for a hour, and never ever intend to, I think YABU.

Why be petty? It's an hour. What's done is done though, just means that you'd be a hypocrite should you ever need him to hang on to DS for an extra hour or pick him up a bit earlier than usual (stuck in traffic \ appointment). If that sits OK with you then it's a non-issue.

i suppose its the principle but personally i cba to find out if its bs or not

I agree, call his bluff. If it is BS he won't do that again.

Thanks for everyone's replies.

The reason I felt this way over an hour is because he has done this in the past. And plus, I had a feeling he was lying to me. It's his day off and it shuts at 4pm on a Sunday. Just sounded very unbelievable.

He dropped DS off at his Mother's anyway and I collected him at 6pm.

He can't have DS more than two days a week as he works shifts and tells me that is all he has off.

Until recently I was driving 10 miles each way to pick DS up and drop him off.

I always give myself a bit of extra time to get home before DS ia due back, usually an hour. So if anything did crop up I could try and deal with it with that hour I purposefully plan into my day.

It's just frustrating! He sometimes doesn't even have him overnight for the whole week. I work full time and I'm going back to uni in Sept.

I can't have him keep giving up hours here and there and expecting me to pick up the slack all the time, right?

Or is this what I need to get used to for the forseeable future?