To think this is rude?

[VitoCorleone]

I have recently made a new friend but there's something bugging me.

When we're standing chatting, sometimes my son will come over and interrupt, i will say "hang on a minute son, we're talking"

If one of her kids comes over and interrupts she will totally ignore whatever I'm saying (usually mid-sentence) and listen to whatever her child is saying, i often tell my son its rude to interrupt but this woman never does.

Is it me or is that actually quite rude? I hate being interrupted and the fact that this woman will just stop listening and start chatting to her child really annoys me.

Or am i being unreasonable? Should i be listening more to my child when they are talking instead of another adult?

In your example definitely rude, there's no reas

Iops

Ugh stupid phone! Ynbu

Its always like that too, she'll start talking about last time she went to the shop or summat. Irritating.

I hate conversation flitters, if interrupted it's polite to go back to previous thing said and just finish it!

Yes your example does sound likes she's rude.

In my house acceptable alternative is:

You: so I was over there....

DC: muuuum

Me: ok great why don't you go and play in garden/fetch random object/ go away and let me continue my convo

If you like your friend console yourself that in a year or two you'll see hide nor hair of them for hours at a time. By the time they're 8 they're long gone!

I agree it's very rude indeed, OP. It's dismissive and gives the impression that she doesn't care what you were going to say, because she wasn't really listening anyway - just waiting for her turn to talk. I'd feel belittled by that behaviour.

How old is her child?

Our boys are both 5 she has a 6 year old also.

Should have been a comma in that last post, please excuse my grammar.

Then you are not unreasonable. 5 is old enough to wait.

It is rude but I know loads of people that do it.

Vito. I have a friend whose DC did this for years. I found myself talking to the back of friend's head - or, even, to thin air whilst she'd wandered off to talk to her DC about crisps - yes .

After a while I made the decision to not get involved in any serious conversations with her at all. We had years of 'non conversations'.

Her DC are now late teens and are rarely in our company now. Friend still does it - she gets distracted by other 'interrupters'.

Frankly, now, I simply CBA to talk to her at all.

I think that, if my child interrupted for something urgent id still have the decency to say to my friend 'sorry x, hold that thought a sec' deal with whatever the issue was then say 'right, you where saying...'

I don't even get a "sorry about that Vito"

Manners cost nothing.

Fru yes i can imagine my friend dismissing me to talk about crisps too, in fact she probably has in the past!