To be �� with bf about this remark

[Chiquititatellmewhatswrong]

We are going to a family wedding in a couple of weeks.

I ordered the Lipsy dress that Michelle Keegan was recently photographed in at a wedding and showed him a picture of it, thinking, maybe naively, that he might say something along the lines of "you'll look gorgeous / sexy in that."

What I got was "ohh she's fit. Nice dress too."

Both true statements but nothing about me.

I am aware that on the day, rightly so ,the attention will be on the bride and nobody will be looking at me but I want him to look at me and think I look good.

I sound about 15 now haha! I assure you I'm not.

I am twice that age.

Aibu, petty, childish and attention seeking, do you think?

What would your reaction be if your boyfriend made this remark?

If he showed me a pic of a shirt he had ordered I would never make a remark about how fit the man in the pic was

Really? I would. DH would laugh.

Michelle keegan is a very attractive lady. Maybe a bit tempty.

Look a this picture of very attractive woman, DO NOT SAY SHE IS ATTRACTIVE. Just say I would look attractive in the same dress.

Yabu ....is it not just his sense of humour??

High maintenance LOL
That scene in Harry Met Sally, the worst kind - high maintenance but thinks they are low maintenance!

I just think it's rude, regardless of the dress or scenario, to be ogling other women in front of the one special woman who you want to feel is the only woman for you.
Sounds quite old fashioned as I write it. I think there is a lot of pressure on women to look certain way, so it's even more important these days that we are made to feel the most attractive woman alive to our partner. But I can see I'm in the minority view here. Shame isn't it?

DH would say something similar, he's almost 50!

I think you are being a bit sensitive.

I'm with you, Brices! ??

I'm in the minority too Brices and think ogling is rude. I doubt DP would comment like that and I wouldn't like it if he did.

I'm not daft enough to think men don't look (I have been known to look fgs, I'm human), but there's a difference between thinking something and choosing to allow it to come out of your gob.

BTW I don't think your DP was awful OP, but perhaps a little insensitive. I didn't think anyone over 30 used the word 'fit' though

I really don't get this 'look a a picture of an attractive woman and say nothing' mentality.

She looks fucking amazing in that dress and I wouldn't expect my DH to say, 'oh you look better darling' if I showed him that photo as I know he'd be lying.

Surely it's better to be honest than pretend otherwise?

She does look amazing, there's no denying that.

I didn't expect him to say I'd look better in it!

I think I will look good in it or I wouldn't have ordered it but I'm not deluded enough to think I'll look better.

I won't.

It's a lovely dress OP and I'm sure you'll look gorgeous in it. (I know I'm not your DP but did that make you feel better?)

Strut your stuff and enjoy the wedding OP, just don't set your boyfriend up for not being able to do right for wrong in future!

Thanks, Sue ??

And Bear, yes I will bear that in mind for future occasions haha!

Fellas eh. They don't change from 15 year old boys do they?

I think they get worse!

The dress is stunning and I am sure it will knock his sock off on the day!

My stbxh was also a prat with things like this - on our wedding day he never said a word to me about whether I looked nice. I was livid and should have ltb then really!!

Yes you should!

Fancy that! On your wedding day!

How upsetting.

They're another species aren't they?

I've been happily married for 5 years and yet I don't recall DH commenting on my appearance at all on our wedding day!!! But I knew I looked bloody amazing, so I wasn't that bothered. Also he got a bit choked up during our vows (he never ever cries) and that meant more to me . He rarely never compliments me, which I know sounds a bit weird but I guess I'm used to it now.

If he showed me a picture of a shirt he was planning to wear, I'd definitely make a comment about fancying the model, though.

I'll be very tempted to do that myself next time he shows me a pic of a shirt he likes haha! See how he feels about that.

I won't do it though.

Chiquita, but why not? Would he be bothered?

He probably wouldn't give a shit though.

Yes haha! Very much so.

That's the thing. He's very self conscious and insecure so he wouldn't like it done to him. He'd be very upset.

You're right, he was insensitive. My DH is only a sporadic complimenter himself but would never say anything like that to me and likewise I would never dribble over other men in front of him. I don't think it's particularly respectful.

BUT wear it, feel amazing in it and don't require his approval and it will get you noticed more than seeking out compliments.

Seriously, I don't get this necessity to pretend like there aren't better looking people in the world.

Unless you're Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie, or whoever floats your boat, then you have to accept there are more attractive people than you.

Being offended by the fact your partner acknowledges that is insane- jealousy only hurts you.

YABU - he is being a typical man - commenting on whats directly infront of him - a sexy girl in a nice dress. Men dont tend to do abstract ideas very well.

Once he sees it actually on you im sure he'll make some lovely comments about you.

You forgot to give him his script, OP. My daughter does that to me all the time, gets annoyed because according to her I didn't say what I was supposed to say.

Lovely dress. I'm sure you'll look gorgeous in it.