To have not chased this ignorant twat and planted him one

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Local community has a transgender lady, no problem with that at all , Infact commenting with Dh how much happier she seems , now fully out( if that's the right term) anyway walking with a friend along local shops , said lady walking towards us , only on nodding terms with her about to smile when some fucking idiot starts shouting fucking tranny and beeping his horn , all of us completely mortified , about to start shouting abuse back but stopped myself , this lady put her head down and carried on past us.
I wanted to go and defend her but I feel like I would of drawn more attention to the situation plus I had my child with me and didn't want to get him involved in a confrontation , did not get to speak to her as she practically ran off , any should I have stepped in ? Should I speak to her ?
Or should I let her get on with however she lives her life ?
I feel like complete cack

It may have embarrassed her more if you'd shouted out. All you can do is continue to greet her.

I would send her a bunch of flowers. No need for words really.

Do you know the person in the car?

Thanks mrs w , that was my initial thought, thank god my brain kicked in before my mouth !

You sound lovely but would have been UR to have started shouting abuse back - it's her battle to fight, not yours, she may not have wanted anyone to confront him (she didn't herself, did she?) and you could even have got yourself into trouble if the shouting match had escalated. As you say, not what you would want with your DS there.

I would have thought that some discreet expression of sympathy towards her might be well received, but it all depends on her, she might genuinely prefer others to completely ignore such incidents. Impossible to know without knowing her.

No don't now people in the van , but they must be locals because it's not that obvious unless you know her.

Hard to call.

If she ran away she may not want confrontation, and if you stood up to them it might have made it worse for her next time.

Did you get their license? You could discretely report them to the police.

Next time you see her, just stay friendly and say hello again.

Punt will do that, hopefully I can be a bit more of a friendly face out and about .

Yeah, as I say, it's hard to call. On the one hand, perhaps it would help her feel more welcome and accepted in the community. On the other, perhaps she doesn't want any "special" treatment whatsoever and so would find it artificial and even patronising. Can't call it from here I'm afraid!

Harassing someone because the are transgender is a hate crime. I would mention it to the police even if you don't have the reg of the van. That way if it happens again at least they know it's not a one off (sadly).

No did not get reg, but may have a word with the local community bobby , just so they are aware that this lady is being verbally abused in the street. Just thinking about it boils my pee.....

I would send her a bunch of flowers.

Of course you wouldn't have!

I go along with others who say it is her fight. But if you see her regularly, there may well be subtle ways that show you support her

Yes. Flowers would be very odd.

Thanks everyone , some great advice , punt your right really hard situation to suss out , I would be mortified if I caused anymore embarrassment for her!

I'd give the police a wee ring on 101. If they knew her enough to know she is transgender and shout at her in the street it's likely they've done it before so there could already be a file building on them. Give police a description and what happened and leave it with them. They may know exactly who is doing it.

Update. Just been to the chemist and seen her, she completely blanked me, guess I have my answer ... How crap.

does she know you though? you may be just another face in the crowd as far as she is concerned. or she could be completely mortified that someone who witnessed that scene earlier is now standing infront of her and just doesn't want to relive it. don't take it to heart. she's the one going through it.

Blanked you or didn't notice you or didn't want to acknowledge someone who saw the shit? You never know with people. She might need a witness. If she got their reg. number.

Most likely mortified , I would of been, but will continue on how we have been and leave the ball in her court .

Yeah, just being friendly and giving her the opportunity to talk to you if she wants to, may be the best you can do.