For the OH to say morning before going on fb?

[donkir]

Just that really, woke up this morning at the same time as OH but rather than say good morning his phone was straight in his hand checking the weather and then Facebook. Anyone else had a similar morning?

Erm, not really seeing the big deal!
I don't want to talk to anyone in the morning, but I can deal with social media.

Hide his phone !! :-0

Id rather check the weather and have a nose on facebook than say good morning to anybody

What's the problem? Me and DP do this all the time.

YABU and controlling.

Me and DP do this. I like to wake up before I have to pretend to be nice to anyone. In fact I set my alarm 15 mins before the DCs wake for that very reason

My dp does this. We don't generally talk until we've brushed our teeth though. I can't abide morning breath and am not famed for being sweetness and light of a morning. I need an hour to wake up. Preferably a silent one.

Dh and I do this too. We say nothing other than "Coffee?"...whoever is making it that is....and we both blearily stare at social media for about 15 mins before we talk.

Controlling? I don't see how I'm controlling by thinking it would be nice if my partner acknowledged me in the morning before checking what his friends have been up to while he's asleep.
Thank you to those other replays though. Seems unfortunately it's the way of the modern world now.

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Is this his normal routine OP or just today?

If it's something which has become a habit just pick your moment say pleasantly ''y'know DH i'd really like it if we could say good morning before you get on your phone - like a kiss first thing :)'', or similar.

A reasonable person who knows and loves you should be fine with this surely? It's hardly controlling.

Thanks fluffy. More recent rather than all the time. Like alis I can't do morning breath at the moment I'm 14 weeks pregnant and it makes me want to heave. Still doesn't stop his saying good morning though.

I don't think dh and I have ever said 'Good Morning' to each other when we have just woken up! Tbh I'm not sure what we say, probably a grunt and 'Tea?'!!

If its an issue for you why didn't you just say good morning first? If he then chose to ignore you I would say you have an issue to deal with.

Lol @ morning breath/morning sickness. I was the same.

I think this sort of thing creeps into relationships. It either matters to you or it doesn't. By 'sort of thing' i mean little casual indifferences to each other. It's not a big deal, no, there's worse that can be going on of course.

(I was married for 15 years to a bloke who would sit with his back to me and his earphones in most evenings, persuing his hobby. That started out as a small thing. I divorced him. I guess i'm just sensitive about this stuff )

I don't talk to my husband for at least 30 minutes. I grunt at him if anything at all.

After 30 minutes when we have both woken up we will say hello. We are both crap in the mornings.

It has nothing to do with the modern world. Without the internet I still wouldn't talk to him for a while.

I'm not a morning person, if DH said morning I would grunt back. Not very sociable in the morning.

Can deal with Facebook though.

Facebook is the work of the devil! Id be annoyed if my O/H did this but happily he's as disinterested in FB as I am. I find it sad that families can all be on social media in different rooms, barely acknowledging each other. Sad sign of the times IMO

I don't think it has to be saying 'good morning' but some kind of acknowledgment is nice.

That said I would find it intensely annoying if the first thing my DH did in the morning was reach for his phone to check social media.

But then I'm miserable.

I am not a morning person and don't really like talking that much either but I think jumping straight on facebook or twitter is a bit much. I don't really get the obsession. I don't have a PC or the internet or a smart phone in case I do get obsessed.

Crinkle how do you get onto MN without a pc, internet or smart phone.

My OH wakes before me most mornings and is usually on his phone reading the news with his back to me, mainly because the charger wouldn't reach if he rolled over. I say morning then he does then I pick my phone up and get on the news as well.

Doesn't offend me.