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Woman knocking on the window at night

22 replies

nslw · 07/08/2014 08:26

My husband and I live in a ground floor flat in what is not really a great area. Our street itself is pretty quiet but the nearby area isn't brilliant.
Our bedroom is to the front of the house and a few months ago we were in the bedroom at almost midnight, with a lamp on and the curtains closed. There used to be a gap where the curtains were at the side that you c

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PetulaGordino · 07/08/2014 08:29

well now my breath is baited

PetulaGordino · 07/08/2014 08:29

*bated

good grief

Wellwellwell3holesintheground · 07/08/2014 08:30

It was an axe murderer.

thornrose · 07/08/2014 08:30

Oh no, she came back and got OP!

tisrainingagain · 07/08/2014 08:31

Where have you gone OP?

EarthWindFire · 07/08/2014 08:31

Yikes......

fun1nthesun · 07/08/2014 08:32

It's a mystery!

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nslw · 07/08/2014 08:32

Damn phone. A gap that you could see through. A woman knocked on the window really loudly, obviously gave us a fright. My DH looked out and saw this 'dishevelled woman' so he opened the window to ask if she was okay, thinking there might be something wrong and she needed someone to phone the police or something. She asked for money for drugs. We quickly closed the window and she eventually staggered down the street. I'd kind of forgotten about it (although have been nervy in the house by myself at night since) but last night someone knocked on the living room window late at night again. We thought it might be our neighbour who sometimes takes in parcels for us so DH opened the door (next to the living room window) and it was this woman again. Asking for money to get high.

My DH is creeped out and was on edge all night as he says 'it's like looking into nothing,.. She looks like a zombie, she is so out of it.'
My AIBU is... If it happens again do we call 101? She's not really committing a crime is she? But it's damn creepy and my DH works away a lot...
Roll on our new place being ready in April :(

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LiberalLibertines · 07/08/2014 08:33

....a gap at the side that you could cut someone's head off while they mn?

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nslw · 07/08/2014 08:34

Haha sorry to keep you in suspense- damn phone posted before I was ready!

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LiberalLibertines · 07/08/2014 08:35

X-post, tell her to piss off, and that if she comes again you'll call the police.

Breach of peace or something I'm sure.

PetulaGordino · 07/08/2014 08:36

if she looked that out of it might she have needed medical attention? you could call 101 if you felt she was vulnerable. and not ok for you to be freaked out in your own house

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 07/08/2014 08:39

Just ignore it if she knocks again. She's soon go away.

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance · 07/08/2014 08:43

Poor woman that's very sad and what a horrible situation for you. I'm trying to think of somewhere you could call for advice in case she comes back but I can't think.

thornrose · 07/08/2014 08:44

She'll be knocking lots of doors and getting told where to go. I agree just shout out go away I'm calling the police. At least she's not scamming you with dramatic tales!

SignYourName · 07/08/2014 08:45

Assume from now on that if someone knocks on your window late at night it's going to be this woman and don't respond? There's no law that says if someone knocks (on door or window) you have to answer. TBH if she's as "out of it" as you say then she's unlikely to be capable of doing you any actual harm if you just ignore the knocking.

I've lived in houses with no front garden and had problems in one house in particular with local kids thinking it was funny to bang on the window as they ran past. It's annoying and made us jump so I sympathise, OP.

CombineBananaFister · 07/08/2014 08:54

Now you know it's not someone in distress or with a genuine need you can help, do not answer her again - ignore. ignore.

Also I would be inclined to call the police, they may have time to deal with it, they may not, but at least it's logged.

She sounds too strung out to do much damage but having had a family member on the downward spiral of drug addiction, they were v. unpredictable and quite ruthless in their need to get high. I would not be opening doors or windows for her again Sad

BMW6 · 07/08/2014 08:58

I would ring 101 personally - she is being a nuisance at best and I doubt that yours is the only window she is knocking on.

OnIlkleyMoorBahTwat · 07/08/2014 09:10

She's probably not committing a crime but she is making a nuisance of herself. She may also need medical or social services type assistance. What if she has DCs or pets that she's not looking after properly?

I'd call 101 and let them look out for her. They'll probably take her home and see how she's living. They'll then contact social services or point her in the direction of drug treatment if it looks like she needs it.

Getting her help now could stop the situation being much worse later on.

MrsWinnibago · 07/08/2014 09:14

She knocked again because he opened the window the first time. Tell him never to open it again. Anyone knocking on windows at night is up to no good. People call out when they're in distress or knock on bloody doors!

I had a drunk woman turn up on my doorstep once, with a bag of cider and a wad of cash in her hand...she kept pointing upwards at my flat saying "Wanna go there..." and I just said "No you don't." and shut the door.

It probably won't happen again but if it does, don't open the bloody window...call the police and they'll find her.

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nslw · 07/08/2014 09:32

Thanks so much for all the responses everyone. Got to hear we are not BU to call the police if she appears again. I definitely agree- we won't be opening the window again!

Both times we have worried later that maybe we should have tried to get her some help, so I'll call 101 if we see her again and then she can hopefully get help if she needs it!

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LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance · 07/08/2014 10:00

Good plan. Though I hope you won't need to use it.

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