A petty one - and a Facebook one (sorry!!)

[helenenemo]

Really petty, but just wanted to make sure I wasn't being unreasonable!

Someone has deleted me on Facebook, no big deal really, I delete people when the fancy takes me - however, I give this person lifts quite regularly.

WIBU to tell them to bugger off and walk now?!

Personally I think you'd be unreasonable, I'm assuming your friendship (or whatever it is you'd want to describe it as) isn't based solely on being friends with them on fb?

Yes! For deleting you off Facebook?! You'd be well within your rights if they stopped interacting with you in real life but you have no idea why they're pruning their FB friends or how they choose to use their FB.

Do you know why they have deleted you?

I see your point as its quite rude to delete you with no further thought & still expect you to go out of your way for them.

Still give them lifts but put something on your wall that you wouldn't normally, say a poem or a joke & drop into a conversation next time they are a captive audience in your car you see them : 'Did you see the thing I put on FB....' & see what they say.

It difficult to delete by accident but not impossible, especially if you are having a cull!

But I don't want to give them lifts, booo!!!

No I don't think you should do that. Maybe they have decided to make facebook less public and just want to have close family and friends on it?

I rejected friends requests from both my nieces because not because I don't like them but because I like to my facebook stuff private amongst friends, they just don't fit into that part of my life. I also have quite a lot of close friends on my restricted list so they can't see my posts.

I would ask them why, If they were honest and said something like "oh Lally you put up sooo many horsey and cow pics I couldn't take it" then fine, but if they give me some bullshit about "oh I didn't I deleted facebook" then they are a liar, they are hiding their true feelings towards you and I would stop being taxi.

Yeah, I get that. I think it's the rudeness of just doing it without a word that has annoyed me!

Deleted you or disabled their account?

Have they deleted you or have they deleted their entire account?

Do you know that they've deleted you rather than just closed their account?

Yeah, they probably deleted themselves!

Deleted me, I went onto their profile to post a pic and it said 'add friend'.

I looked at their friends and they're still friends with people we mutually know. I've sent them a message anyway.

I was a bit :o how rude!!!!! I've thought for months they're just using me so they don't have to walk/bus it and now I think this just proves me right!

Oooh what message did you send?

:)

How frequently do you give this person lifts? Does he/she pay you for them? Ultimately if you don't want to give someone a lift, you don't have to.

They might have done it by mistake. Do you normally get on ok (or are they wierd)?

well if you use facebook to arrange the time of lifts they are shit out of luck then aren't they!

Do you post a lot on Facebook? Lots of fridge magnet quotes, baby pictures, political views etc? Possibly you could be a bit annoying on Facebook?

Someone did this to me a few weeks ago, for no reason what so ever other than she has form for it and likes people to come grovellling, asking if she will be their friend again pathetic

The following day, she found out from a friend of mine that we were putting our house on the market. Que a gushing text asking me a 101 questions about why we were moving and where were we going.

I just ignored her but DH said I should have texted back "all updates about the move on FB"

Probably 3 times a week, I haven't seen them for about 2 weeks - no reason for that, just the way things have fallen. We have spoken though.

I don't think I post that much, I realised all my recent posts have been about one topic but say 4 posts in the last fortnight. (I thought it might be annoyance so checked!)

The message was a cheeky one along the lines of "oi so and so, you're not my friend?!"

It's daft that I am irritated by it but I'm partly intrigued to know what I've done! ??

No, that doesn't sound annoying. Sounds like it could be a mistake.

If you really don't want to give them lifts; go earlier and say 'I tried to contact you on facebook to tell you I was having to leave earlier now and you have taken me from your friends list so I am assuming that we aren't friends and you don't want a lift anymore. No worries'.

I had a bit of a weird one. Big group of us used to be really close in our early 20's. Gradually we all started moving away and creating new lives for ourselves, but we remained FB friends. There was one woman who I had had this feeling she didn't like me. I noticed one day we weren't FB friends. Wasn't bothered, didn't even mention it to any of our friends. Months later I had a friend request from her. I was a bit , left it for a while then accepted. Weirdly in the time we hadn't been friends she became a prolific FB user, she would post loads of stuff tagging all of our friends but leave me out of it.

One of our friends had an engagement party so we all went. Whilst there I caught her trying to break something that she knew belonged to me. Didn't created a scene at the party, but went home and deleted and blocked her. Told the host afterwards.
It's my friends hen night in a few weeks time, breaker woman is going to be there, dreading it tbh
There is not as queer as folk. In your case I'd ask her does she have a problem with you. Wander if she's just trying to make you chase her and ask for a friend request?

Whilst there I caught her trying to break something that she knew belonged to me.

WTF?!

I'm with you on this OP, I wouldn't give lifts anymore either. If she can't be arsed to put up with my drivel on FB then she won't want to put up with it in person in my car either!