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To think that a public road is just that (yep - it's another parking one)

63 replies

CuppaTeaAndAJammieDodger · 06/08/2014 14:00

I live on a main road with no parking, there is a large car park next door to us (the council offices) which you're allowed to use at weekends and on bank holidays (which I indeed use at these times) the only other place to park within about a 15 minute walk (if you're lucky) is the cul-de-sac opposite which has about space for about 14 cars (although there is a boat permanently in one of these spaces), about 70% of the houses on that road have either got a driveway or a separate garage.

On 2 occasions now I have had residents (older ladies if that is of any consequence) come over to me whilst I am in my car and yell at me about how terrible and selfish I am for parking on their road and how it should be left for the residents and nobody else. I've calmly explained each time that it is a public road and not residents parking and I pay my road tax like everyone else (although if it was I suspect I'd get a permit as we're so close to the road in question and have no alternative parking on week days), that I have to drive to get my DD (just turned 6) to school and that I work some miles away in a place that is only accessible by car. I asked one of them where else they suggest I park - she just said "I don't care, just not here". I ended up closing my window on one of them, and let the other rant (we were a captive audience as a bin van was blocking the exit...fun!) until she ran out of steam and the van had left - at which stage I told her I wished she would focus her attention on more important things and drove off (yes - rude - not too proud of myself for saying that but she had just spent the last 10 minutes yelling at me).

DD was in the car both times I was berated and was very upset on one of the occasions as the woman was so nasty.

I continue to use the cul-de-sac to park, I have no choice, but I feel very uncomfortable doing so now.

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revealall · 06/08/2014 18:28

I think your post is really about the women having a go at you and whether that is reasonable.

I think that you have every right to park there and they have every right to point out that you are being anti social.

I think it is fair enough on both counts.

motherinferior · 06/08/2014 18:35

I'm sure YANBU but personally I feel quite homicidal about all the people who park in my road. I yearn for resident parking. I know the MN line is 'you picked that street to live on, cope with it' but the homicidal feelings persist.

It wasn't me, btw. Even though I am a grumpy Older Laydee.

TrendStopper · 06/08/2014 18:39

I am torn on this.

Yes you can park where you like on a public highway etc however it is hard to completely agree with you. Where I used to live before my neighbour would always park outside our house blocking my window. On that street we had car parking spaces vertical to the houses so instead of
H l it was H -
There are plenty of spaces in that street that wouldn't block anyones view but he chose to park right outside my window. I am pretty sure he did it deliberately because of something his 10 yr old did to my 5yr old.

Altinkum · 06/08/2014 18:42

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motherinferior · 06/08/2014 18:47

No, we don't have a greater right. It is, however, incredibly annoying to spend 10 minutes circling round your neighbourhood trying to find somewhere to park, when someone else has parked their vehicle smack in front of your own house. A red mist of hatred descends. I don't do anything about it, mind.

Viviennemary · 06/08/2014 18:51

I think it is a bit cheeky to park in a cul de sac if you don't live there and aren't visiting. I hate anyone I don't know parking outside our house. It really annoys me because there's no need. They should park outside the house of the people they're visiting.

GalaxyInMyPants · 06/08/2014 18:54

Yanbu. Its a public road, you can park there.

EmptyNestAgain · 06/08/2014 19:00

We turned our (incredibly small) front garden into off street parking so it was easier for us. Now, there are cars parked all up and down the road, including right up to the edge of the driveway, so we still can't easily get in. Yesterday, there was about an inch either side of the car as I turned in. Next door have 5 cars, though only 2 people live there and the other side have 7 between 3 of them. All of these are on the road, so I know how it is from both sides. how many cars can you drive at once?
Oh, and YANBU Grin

Altinkum · 06/08/2014 19:00

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Patrickstarisabadbellend · 06/08/2014 19:00

If they keep pestering you threaten them with the police. It's bloody harassment.

SurfBoredCat · 06/08/2014 19:07

YANBU - I've lived in areas where there's no designated parking and now live in the centre of a fairly busy town and all week lots of cars park on my road. I just have to suck it up because I chose to live there and I only have as much right as anyone else to park there.

I did chuckle the other day when I was stuck in traffic and saw a small handwritten sign in someone's front window. There was a designated public parking bay on the road in front of the windows and the note said 'DO NOT park in front of these windows' Confused Hmm
I must admit that there was a small part of me that wanted to park there after reading that!

2cats2many · 06/08/2014 19:13

YANBU. I used to live on a road off a main road and often couldn't park near my house. I sucked it up, because it was a public road and it was first come first served.

I really dislike people getting territorial about parking spaces.

Pipbin · 06/08/2014 22:17

In the house I have just left it was permit parking. Only problem was that the permits only counted 8-6 and there was a theatre down the road. I remember one evening coming home and there was no where to park because of people going to the theatre. I sat in my car and cried because it was late and I was tired. 20 minute later the show ended and everyone went.
I was pissed off, but not at them because it is a public road and the permits don't count after 6.

Parking was a non negotiable in our new house.

Fairylea · 06/08/2014 22:27

I think as long as you change the place you park in regularly (so it's not always outside the same house, just to be considerate really) then it's tough titties really. Fuck em. It's a public road. It may be a cul de sac but that doesn't mean you can't park there.

And I say that as someone who is frequently (unreasonably) annoyed that my neighbours friend parks outside our house nearly every day even though we have a drive. I just don't see why they can't park somewhere else for once! (Incase we have a visitor). But... public road, anyone can park.

soverylucky · 06/08/2014 22:43

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WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 06/08/2014 22:52

Not long ago I put this little hand written note on my neighbours 'polite notice'
It still makes me chuckle

To think that a public road is just that (yep - it's another parking one)
TamzinGrey · 06/08/2014 23:05

YANBU to expect to be able to park on a public road without getting abused.

YABU to make a pointed remark about the age of the abusers. I had a similar parking situation in my previous house and the woman in the close opposite who had an aggressive go at me was about 35 years old. If I'd started a thread on here it wouldn't have occurred to me to mention her age.

MrRedAndBlue · 06/08/2014 23:19

I have zero sympathy for anyone that moans about motorists parking in 'their' space or on 'their' road. If you don't own the road just STFU and get on with your life.

Patrickstarisabadbellend · 06/08/2014 23:46

Grin that note is beautiful haha

CuppaTeaAndAJammieDodger · 07/08/2014 00:04

Love that note - no beating around the bush!

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Andrewofgg · 07/08/2014 00:27

My favourites are the types who have acquired some cones and try to protect "their" space when they go out. Just put their cones down on the pavement and park . . . and if they don't like it what goes with Gomorrah?

CuppaTeaAndAJammieDodger · 07/08/2014 05:58

Admittedly I did once put out our wheelie bins and a note out asking if people could leave the space clear for us when we were moving house, couldn't gave done much if anyone decided to move them though.

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EveDallasRetd · 07/08/2014 06:57

I would go out of my way NOT to park on a residential street, even if it meant me having to walk for more than 15 minutes (as per OP).

My lovely MIL has an illness that is slowly killing her. She cannot walk more than 100yds without having to rest. She lives in the same house that she bought more than 40 years ago when parking was not the issue it is today. If her partner cannot park outside the house, she is completely housebound. People - including the local labour MP have taken to using her road for parking instead of the 100 space car park 200 yds down the road. This car park charges £5 a full day.

We applied for a blue badge, she got it. We applied for a space outside the house but it was turned down (because there are already 2 spaces in the same road, but too far away from MIL).

You may not be in the wrong 'legally', but maybe there is a greater need for those spaces.

OatcakeCravings · 07/08/2014 07:03

Hmmm. Where I live we all have drives but most houses have more than one car. Before I had a car my neighbors parked one of their four(!) cars in front of my house. The minute I bought a car they stopped doing that. I think that was the polite thing to do, even though its a public road.

dexter73 · 07/08/2014 07:05

It is where the op lives as well. She shouldn't have to walk 15 minutes to her house just because a couple of people don't like her parking there, and as far as I am aware from the op there are no issues with people who are ill not being to get in/out of their houses.