I probably am but I'm mad

[sharonthewaspandthewineywall]

My sil and her family never even acknowledged my birthday by sending a card or a text. That's fine. Been with DH 13 years so she knows when just decided she doesn't fancy sending her sil one I guess. DH has pissed me off this morning by saying he wants to send her a card with a picture of the kids in. I know I know be the bigger person but it really greats on me that he let's people treat me like shit yet bends over backwards for them. I know I'm being unreasonable but yeh so ermmm... AIBU

I am really shit at birthdays, I don't remember when they are. I have to have reminders from moonpig et al. Some years I get cards from my BIL & SIL (DH's sibling and their wives), other times I don't. Much of the time, it doesn't really register.