Wibu to message this person on Facebook?

[Pyjamaramadrama]

About 10 years ago I met a friend through work, she was really lovely and we clicked straight away and would go out quite regularly. She had moved from another city to work there.

She was really lovely but seemed to be a bit lost, moving from flat share to flat share, dabbling in drugs and getting involved with the wrong men. She ended up getting into a very upsetting situation with a horrible guy and there was nothing anyone could really do.

I won't say too much about the rest as anyone who knew her would guess bit she ended up getting involved in some other stuff and sort of disappeared off the radar.

I do think of her from time to time and wonder how she's doing, I have looked her up on Facebook once or twice a couple of years ago but she didn't seem to be on there.

Anyway don't know why but messing around on my phone earlier being nosey and looked her up, I 'think' she's on there but there's only a small photo and you can't add her due to her settings.

I kind of want to send her a message, I'd like to know that she's doing ok and happy now, but think it would probably come across as nosey due to the circumstances around the last time we were in touch.

I'm genuinely not but thought a lot of her at the time.

People couldn't search for me on FB by the way as I'm not in 'my name' as only have 5 close family members as friends.

Oh I would. You've nothing to lose

I would send her a message, but do be aware if you're not friends on FB then your message may go into her 'other' folder so she may not see it for a while.

Of course you should do it

I think you should do it too.

I think you absolutely should too. Life is too short not to.

Only thing I would say is same as a previous poster, if you message on fb and that person is not your friend then it may go into an other folder and she might not see it.

The other thing is, as a wise person once told me - whenever you do anything, there is a consequence, it's a natural reaction to an action. And that reaction may be silence.

You just have to prepare yourself to not like the reaction, which could be her not responding.

But if this is important to you, then do it and know you couldn't do anymore