To think 'WTF' in this situation?

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My DD is 14months old. She attends nursery twice a week. Went to pick her up last night and a little girl, about 3 was hugging her and kiss her face - all very cute! (they mix the age groups towards the end of the day as LOs start to go home). My DD was clearly taken with her! The 3 year olds mum came to pick her up and asked her mum if my DD could sleep over at their house. I thought "aw bless". But get this - the mum said "yes of course sweetheart" and then asked, in all seriousness, if I wanted to arrange something soon? I was very a bit and of course said no sorry she's a bit too young at the moment (DD does look her age btw) and the poor 3 year old began to cry! I felt bloody awful.

AIBU to think this is a bloody weird situation? Is this the beginning of a long string of weirdo mums that will lay in my wake for the next 17 years? Do people actually do this?!

Very weird! Her not you!

I wouldn't have thought any child in a nursery would have been ready for a sleep over.

My DS wasn't till he was about 8!

WTF indeed! Does your DD sleep well? If not I would be tempted to take her up on the offer

Maybe by arrange something she meant a play date rather than a sleep over?

Did you give her a chance to explain or just assume she meant to sleep over

Are you sure she said 'sleep' not 'play'? It'd be unusual for the mum to arrange a play date with that age gap, but maybe nice to meet over a coffee while the kids played.

But if she really meant sleep... That's bonkers!

I think she meant sleep over as that was what her DD asked for. Oh god, what if she meant coffee/play date and I now just look like a rude unsociable arse even though I am one.

Ooh strange! My DD always had really close friendships at nursery but I wouldn't have someone to sleepover or allowed her too, still wouldn't in fact. I'd possibly say 6 years old for a child that I knew well and knew the parents too but not before then.

Is your DD even potty trained? Not that she should be, but I know I wouldn't want to be changing a stranger's child's nappies. Maybe the other mother knew you'd say no and didn't want to be the bad guy!

It would be an easy misunderstanding under the circumstances, she could have been more clear. If you want to smooth things over you could suggest a play date.

Suggest a play date instead. Just say you'd rather wait until your daughter is a little older for sleepovers.

wow that is odd.

Wouldn't most have just gone "yes sweetie" to the three yr old to keep them from going on about it and then just arranged a play date?

I probably would have done cos a three yr old probably wouldn't trifle knuw that a sleep over was anyway

She would have meant a playdate, not a sleepover. 'Arrange something' is quite a loose and generic way of suggesting a get together.

Truly not trifle

It doesn't sound like you misunderstood to me... Perhaps I take things too literally but if the child clearly said sleepover then surely that is what is being discussed?

YANBU.

Fruit loop Lady down the road would palm her kids off so she could go out on the piss. One Sunday morning (I was on nodding terms with the mother) I was faced with a 2yo and a 5yo on my door step still in pyjamas saying "mum said we can come in whilst she goes shopping" - I think not!

After that she would ask if my then 14yo would sleep over with her kids why she didnt just ask for a baby sitter I don't know. The 2yo ended up diagnosed with ADHD, my 14yo didnt know what to do with him, I ended up in the street at 11pm (it is a nice area honest) trying to get the 2yo to stop riding his bike and go in doors. She of course was out on the lash and crawled home at 5am out of her bloody box

There are people out there who mean exactly what the OP meant ... a 3yo wants a sleep over with a 14month old. This is an in road to palming her kid off eventually. Not a play date, a sleep over. Reciprocal only you will end up doing all the reciprocating.