To want to sometimes sleep on my own

[Cantbelievethisishappening]

Lying here with about one inch of space either side of me, DH snoring his fucking head off, I'm hot and my back is killing me because I can't sprawl out and have a long drive tomorrow. Am a bad sleeper at the best of times. DH was away for a few weeks and I slept sooooo well. Would love to have a few nights a week sleeping on my own but when I suggested it DH was like and then
Right now I am just raging and want to elbow him really hard

Where would you sleep? Just get out of bed and go and sleep there!

It's dangerous to drive without enough sleep, just explain you couldn't get to sleep because he was sprawled, so you moved.

Don't ask him, if you are the one with the problem just move to the spare bed/sofa bed. Next morning complain about his snoring next morning and say you needed to rest because it wouldn't be safe to drive otherwise.

DH has a thing about open windows at night. He dutifully closes them every bedtime. Once he is asleep I open them up again. He never notices!

Good suggestions. I could also see why you might wake him up and say he was snoring so loudly you couldn't sleep. A few nights of being woken up for this and he might see the benefits of you moving to the spare room a couple of nights in the week.

When I suggested it he said it was ridiculous.
Does anyone else do this? Feel like an idiot but am so sick of it.
Can't afford to buy one of those massive beds which would give more space.

If he's keeping you awake with his snoring and you want to sleep somewhere else, just go and do it! Totally reasonable imo. You don't need his permission.

More couples than will admit it sleep separately at least some of the time. Snoring and bed-hogging are massive issues, as is lost sleep for the affected partner.

Record the snoring and the taking up of the bed. Show it to him tomorrow. Move to another room to sleep!

I was thinking I want my own bed last night in a similar situation.
Me on my back straight as an arrow edging away from the sweating snorting grunty thing that kept spreading further into my space the more I moved away. I nearly went and joined ds3. He snores less.
Also why I'm still awake downstairs. I can hear him from here and I need to be so tired nothing will wake me before it's worth trying to sleep (in our fucking kind size bed ffs!)

We haven't shared a bed for donkey's years. He sleeps like a jackhammer snoring starfish.

'Visiting' is nice

YANBU Ido this sometimes for my own sanity. When one of the kids gets into our bed I leave DH and them to it and go and sleep in their bed instead. We also have a lovely sofa bed perfect for that too.

He is sleeping, you are not, go and sleep somewhere else. Why should you suffer just to spare his feelings?

Do you have somewhere else you could sleep op?

Posted to soon.....
...marriage because of it then tough. Am knackered and angry most mornings. That is more likely to cause issues in the long run.

Oh FFS..... Have no idea what I've done up thread. Seem to have lost a post.

I can sleep on the sofa bed downstairs.

did you seek a good night sleep elsewhere yet??

Go sleep on it and screw his silly faces. If he doesn't like it he shouldn't make sleeping so difficult for you

I would move to a spare room if you have one, sleep is important and this can cause issues between couples. I sleep best when I'm away in a hotel on my own. Tonight my DH has the snuffles, again, so his normal loud snoring will lift the roof. I'm a light sleeper so not looking forward to a night of lost sleep. I can't even use the spare room as DS commandeered it and set up his stuff in it and took the bed apart. If I could I would. Actually I'd love my own room just for nights like this :)

No mama lol @jackhammer snoring starfish!

I feel your pain everyone. DH snores for England so I have taken to wearing earplugs and going to bed well before him so I can fall asleep first. I used to sleep elsewhere too.

OP your healthy sleep is more important than poor DH's hurt feelings, poor diddums

We have separate rooms, it's bliss! YANBU.

Hope you get some sleep OP.
There is no law that states that couples must sleep in the same bed at all times ;)... though you'd think there was sometimes.

You need to do what's comfortable for you. If your DH cares about you, he'll care about your wellbeing, and not dismiss your need for a good nights' sleep!

This could be me, I feel your pain! DP has been away for seven weeks, I've slept really well. First night he's back and he's sent the temperature in bed rocketing and has either been snoring or breathing like a horse. Everytime I move he wakes up.

I just got up to go sleep in the spare room and he insisted he'd go as he can sleep anywhere. He's already snoozing away. I'm hoping we can get back in sync somehow.

I often leave the bed after OH has gone to sleep and return before he wakes. I'm not sure he even realises. We have spare bedrooms though as offspring have recently left home.

My dh is a big hairy snoring monster. I completely understand.

I send him to the spare room every now and again.

For what it's worth, ikea beds are 10cm wider than normal beds, so an ikea king size is even bigger than a normal king size. It makes a massive difference to me and they're not hugely expensive. You'd need new bottom sheets as well but they're only £6 each.

I feel this way sometimes. I mostly want to sleep in the same bed as DP but sometimes I want him to fuck off onto the couch. Sometimes I just don't like the feeling of someone close to me. I can't sleep on the couch myself because of the cat. I just don't feel I can ask him. I end up not really sleeping until he gets up for work at 3am.