To just sometimes not want to have sex with DH?

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Have been trying for a second child for several months. I've never had a high sex drive at the best of times. Just now is my fertile window but DH has been bugging my tits all day, just really irritating me and picking away.

The last thing really I want to do is have sex but he is going away tomorrow and tonight is our last shot. AIBU to think I cannot be the only one in this position!?

no yanbu let it go this month if you really don't want to dtd

Are you sure you want a baby with this man who irritates you so much? How is the rest of your relationship?

Are you sure you want babies with this dude? When you're ovulating your body wants to get pregnant..your dude should be extra desirable right now.

Pinkrose get real. What couple don't sometimes irritate one another!!

OP though it's not on to bug someone for sex. Be clear and tell him you're not into it. If he continues then something's off.

Gamer what shite. If I fancied MY DH every time I ovulated I'd have 18 kids by now!

Well I can't get enough of mine when I'm ovulating.

It's funny I think because the more sex I have, the more I have but go for a couple of weeks without and I think I could quite happily forego it forever - just go to bed like basil and Sybil Fawlty.

If you don't want to do it you don't want to do it. YANBU to not want sex.

Do whatever you want. When I was TTC I wouldn't have missed the opportunity though.

Oh FFS, are some of you saying there are never ever times that your partner really irritates you? Ever? Get real

Glass of wine (or bottle) can really help

The whole point of ovulation is increased sex drive to fertilise your eggs.

So it kind of depends what your ultimate goal is: 2nd baby so you lay back and accept the sperm. OR Don' fancy a shag and say not tonight sunshine!

However this thread is usually the reverse, bloke wont impregnate ripe egged female, female thrashing round on one forum or another all woe is me and smoting her breast at having to wait another 28 days for optimum impregnation time.

I realise if I want another baby, which I do, I need to get on with doing the inevitable. I know we are meant to have increased sex drive when ovulating but sometimes real life can get in the way - lack of sleep, work stress, bickering et. Doesn't mean I don't love my DH!

Forget any negative feelings and go and give him a kiss. You'll soon feel you love him.

I wouldn't put TTC above not wanting sex when he's being an irritating git tbh.

But then I also believe I conceived when I wanted it and the ovulation kit I tried once was total bollocks. If you aren't into it I think the chances as less

Softly, I've been into it several times a month for several months and still no dice, so.....

YANBU. Sometimes you just don't feel like sex, and that's absolute fine.

Sperm can survive for 7 days in the uterus, so doesn't mean you've missed the chance anyway.

That's right, mild irritation is grounds for divorce here on MN.

It's hard with a baby already there. They're exhausting even at the best of times. Me and DH have only done it once since DD was born. Before that we were at it like bunnies. But now we're both exhausted at the end of the day.

If you're not in the mood, I wouldn't. Your partner can sense when you're just not into it, and that doesn't really make it as fun for either party involved.

If you think about it, you'll have to wait 9 months for the baby to arrive once you're pregnant anyway, then you'll have your kid for 18 more years after that. So putting it off for another month in the grand scheme of things isn't a big deal.

No YANBU. But I wouldn't do it if you really don't feel like it either - give yourself a month off. Might help!

(Also, if you're having troubles, can I recommend you dose up on Vit D - worked for me! Well, I'm pretty sure that was the main factor - I was tested after my 3rd MC and found to be low, and low vit D is implicated in both infertility and MC - so I was put on vit D supplements to increase my levels and the next time I got pg I got DS2! Didn't do anything for my sex drive though.)

Do you have to have intercourse? Can't you just get him to give you some semen which you apply manually?

YANBU.

OP you ANBU at all. It isnt a rule that you have to have sex when ovulating if ttc. Fine to have a break. Ttc can be stressful, lots of pressure and a break is a healthy decision to make. Give yourself a month off from the pressure.