to ask if anyone has been to see a psychic / healer about relationship issues and whether it helped?

[tisrainingagain]

That's all really. My relationship feels as if it is at rock bottom and I have been going round in circles in my head for an age. I want someone to tell me what to do and that it will be okay!

Depends on what you mean by 'rock bottom'.

Also I'd always try professional marriage guidance counsellors before I'd see a psychic because I don't believe in that stuff .

no because they are a crock of shite. Go to relate.

YABU, Psychics are a con, as are most healers, I wouldn't waste your money. If you want to try anything along the spiritual lines I suggest meditation in some form.
You can get guided meditations off YouTube or on dvd's which will help you relax and think more clearly. I use Tarot as a form of meditation, the card spread and interpretations help me to approach a problem from a different angle and sometimes to find a solution.
My point is that the answer has to come from you, nobody can tell you your own future.

No. They prey on people like you - vulnerable and at rock bottom.

We went to counselling 2 years ago but h stopped coming after 5 or 6 sessions. There is a lot of resentment on both sides. H is impossible to talk to about anything. We sleep separately and the atmosphere between us is strained. H very good at ignoring me / getting on with his life as if I don't matter unless he has to have a rant about an item of shopping I haven't picked up or something I haven't done or should be doing.

I am not sure I believe in psychics either but it would be nice to get a different perspective on things.

The implications of separating are massive as we have three children. It feels like an impossible decision to make.

I used to when I was a student. All the time.

Not one of them ever said anything at all of any relevance, except perhaps one. I spent a fortune, and saw loads.

Don't waste your money

Perhaps you should try individual counselling? It doesn't sound as though he is likely to change so you need to figure out what you are going to do in response to the situation. Good luck, OP, I hope it works out for you one way or another.

Well, I did once burn £50 and listen to Enya, I assume that's like going to visit a psychic?

Get professional marriage counselling and don't get conned by charlatans.

Do not do this. Many years ago I was persuaded to see a so called psychic by a friend. In the waiting room was an extremely upset young woman who hung on this charlatans every word and saw her two or three times a week. When it was my turn she was so obviously a fraud that I said I didn't have my bank card and gave her a cheque which I cancelled.

There may be genuinely caring psychics but in the end you are better off with trained counsellors. Perhaps you should be thinking in terms of ending your relationship rather than trying to fix what is unfixable?

Yes I agree but how do you know when it is really unfixable .

You sound afraid to end things and want someone to tell you it'll be ok. It will!

I'm divorced now and far happier than I ever was married and we amicably co parent. Why struggle on? It sounds an unhappy marriage and hardly a healthy example for the DCs and what about what you deserve? You don't need a psychic charlatan to tell you life will get better and you'll meet a good man. YOU WILL!

Well can you see yourself living like this in 5 years time? A year? Until Christmas? How much of your life do you want to devote to trying to fix this when he just ignores you?
Think about what his reaction would be if you sat him down and said 'I want to divorce you'. How would you feel if he agreed?
You only get this life, waiting for someone else to fix it will get you nowhere

He ignores you and gets on with his life as if you don't matter!

Op why don't you post on the relationship's board? You will get a lot of support. A psychic is not going to help you

Also, I don't need to be psychic to know you will feel better away from that negativity.

I wouldn't, I don't see how it could possibly help and it might do some real harm.

Why not try a life coach if you want an independent perspective?

There are a couple of changes I need to make before I can call it a day knowing that I have tried hard enough. I can't get up the motivation or energy to make the changes however.

Hadn't thought of a life coach. Someone being positive about me would be great!

Tis: The result of a healing session could well be divorce, because that may be the best option for all of you.

TBH I wouldn't bother going to see a psychic or a healer, but there are Angel cards that can give you answers. (similiar to Tarot cards, but kinder).

No doubt I will now be ridiculed by some on here.

Hahahahaha LOL. No.

A relative of mine went to see a psychic with her boyfriend. The psychic told them they would get married and live a long and happy life together, with children.

He killed her the next week. I was at his trial.

Psychics = full of shite.

I love angel cards pax

What is it you want the psychic to tell you?

What to do .

Thanks for the pointer re. Angel cards pax. Bought some today and will give them a go.

I guess part of the issue with me is loneliness and not knowing what to do for the best. Also not being able to do the things I know I need to do for myself due to constant obsessing about how awful my relationship with h is or how much I don't like some of his character traits (short temper for example).

I went to two years of counselling by myself but stopped going last summer.