To think all of us Mums

[PisforPeter]

Do the same job really??
Some just work outside of home also

Do you? Do you deal with seizures and 8 year old nappy changes then?

Or intravenous feeds and medications, gastrostomy drainage and wheelchair maintenance?

Inside the home? For no pay?

Yep - precisely the same job. Well said, Hurr1cane

Can you elaborate OP? Before you get hung drawn and quartered

Is this thread going to turn into one of those competitive misery ones where people battle to see who has it the hardest?

Oh dear.

Why just mums? Don't dads do any parenting?

Oh dear.

I think OP may be talking about the collective of mothers that frequent MN.

Oh lord.

I don't think that's true. I spend half my life sitting on my arse. I only get up to organise the staff.

I think she means we're all doing basically the same thing by raising our children the best we can. SN children are just a different process but same job.

But no, I don't think we're all doing the same job, because if I work outside the home, then DH would take over and stay at home. So the responsibilities would fall to him as the primary care giver. So having a paid job does change my responsibilities as a parent, and it should.

Pag you're overdoing it. Direct from a seated position.

Agree Floozey
Pag

Godammit Luiz, I could have saved hours of getting up and walking.

I could get a bell and pulley thing like Downton....

I see what you are getting at OP, all us mothers do the same thing in that we are mothers and care for our children, some have to deal with medical difficulties, others maybe behavioural difficulties, some work full time, some part time, others stay at home but at the end of the day whether you allow your child to drink tea or fizzy juice or water only, whether the eat sweets or only raisins for treats we all do the same in that we love and do our best to raise our kids.

Let me lower the bar - I am quite relaxed in my approach to parenting, I only work part time (if even that), I have a half arsed approach to housework and my kids play out all day in the street with their friends getting dirty or wet or whatever and go to the shop on their own. They play on bikes without helmets and the dogs lick them. Award for lazy arsed parent of the year would probably go to me but my circumstances are different from everyone elses, same as all of you. You have to run with the hand you're dealt.

Parents all parent their children, to a wide variety of standards, whilst some also have paid employment or are self employed. This is obvious OP, so what point are you actually trying to make?

DH does most of the parenting work around here...

Poor OP, trying to build bridges and make peace and ends up getting the shit kicked out of her. Charming

Yeah, but when I worked, DSs childminder picked up and did all the work I do but for money. Obviously when his needs got too great I had to leave and take over.

Working was a lot easier.

Caring is much more rewarding.

I actually genuinely don't understand the point the OP is trying to make!

Has someone had a go at her for being a working parent? Or for being a SAHM?

"Some just work outside the home also"

Sounds like she's basically saying she does the same as a SAHM but more on top.

Which isn't true.

Because childcare.

Aw EugeneCrabs, I wasn't trying to kick the shit out of the op. just a little joshing.

I think whatever our circumstances most of us have our hands full and the tit for tat between sahms and wohns is stupid. So if that's what you mean op, I agree.

Tit for tat is stupid. Everyone has their hands full and I don't FEEL like I work any harder than anyone else. Even those with no children.

Culture are you telling me you have never read a thread or looked at comments under an article in an online newspaper where SAHM slags FT working, FT working slags PT working, PT working slags FT working who then slags SAHM? Maybe the OP was just trying to give a peace offering to all mothers whether they are stay at home, working full time, working part time or a flipping time traveller? Maybe the OP is fed up of mothers slagging each other and the point is actually the first sentence of your first comment? Parents all parent their children, to a wide variety of standards

You haven't attempted to explain your actual point OP. It may valid, or it may be the way many posters have taken it and you deserve a light grilling. Hard to tell really unless you clarify...

[Grin] Pag. Sounds a bit like hard work to me.

One chooses to have a child. I can never understand stand this competitive parenting.

Lally, I try really hard to avoid reading those types of articles because it is a pointless and artificial debate which has the effect of pitting women against other women for no reason. So I do tend to be a bit unaware of the depth of feeling around this area.