To be really proud of dd2 for this?

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Ex decided to let me know, at midnight last night, that he wanted the kids from 11am today to sometime on Sunday for a family party/sleepover.

They won't do overnights with him, especially dd1. Dd2 didn't want to sleepover because she didn't want to be away from dd1, but would go to the party.

Ex then started his usual games of picking at dd1 and myself, blaming us for dd2 not wanting to stay overnight with him. Dd1 still wanted to to go. I allowed her to go, against my better judgement, but made her aware I'd come and collect her if she wanted to come home before ex did.

When she got to his, he started on her all the more, knowing this would result in a tantrum allowing him to tell her she couldn't go to the party for misbehaviour and leaving him with dd2, so he could stay play the doting father for his family.

It worked. Dd1 walked out in tears. What he wasn't banking on was dd2 following her because "I don't want to go to a party where my sister is not allowed and I don't want to go a party with someone who bullies my sister"

He's had to apologise to both of them.

Good for DD1 and DD2, it's nice to know someone has your back. Your ex is still a dick though.

IMO children are actually very good at seeing adults for what they are especially when they are being manipulative. It is what they choose to do with the information is the interesting thing. In your dd case she saw through what was going on and choose for herself as to the right thing to do. Well done her and as star swirl said your ex is a dick. I guess that's why he is your ex

Yes, he is. My children really deserve better, but unfortunately, as much I'd love to, stopping contact is wrong. I just wish he could start to understand that he is the problem, not a 10yo child and if he doesn't start repairing his relationship with d1, he will lose both of them.

Good for your girls and well said DD2. They sound smart and astute. You must be incredibly proud and rightly so.

they sound like smart girls, and you're right, they're unlikely to put up with their fathers bullshit for much longer. More power to them I say!

I'm afraid I couldn't expose my children to that sort of behaviour. He sounds like an absolute dick and his actions will be colouring their personalities.

Good for them. In the mean time can you use this as a way to limit contact? They really shouldn't be put in the position of having to stand up to their father like that.

Your children are incredibly smart and resourceful , they will go far.

Clearly he's fooling no one and well done for your dd to vLl him on it!

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Good for her!