to ask this woman to stop waving her cigarette around

[PopcornFrenzy]

was at a bus stop yesterday and a woman stood next to 4 yo DS and I, she lit a cigarette and whilst waving it around she caught DS on the arm. She then got snotty with me because I asked her to keep control of her fag and not try to burn my DS. Luckily he had a long sleeved top on but you can see the scorch mark.

my daughter once had her hair set on fire by a cigarette we could smell something smouldering in the taxi and i realised what it was saw the smoke and started smacking her over the head to put it out everyone including me was horrified at me randomly battering my daughter so i threw my squash over her head she sat there upset with it dripping down her face all i could say was sorry you were on fire never called that taxi company again

YANBU. I often wonder do people waving their cigarettes casually around in a crowd realise that they could actually burn someone. I have seen people in a scrum to get on a bus still puffing on their cigarette before casually tossing it away, and people walking down a crowded street just tossing their still lit cigarette over their shoulder when they've finished smoking it.

Maybe that's where the word 'tosser' came from

whats really annoying is when people light up but don't actually smoke the fag.

when you're silting at a table and they don't want the smoke in THEIR eyes so they hold it behind them to blow into other peoples faces.

If youre going to have a fag, SMOKE IT.

and OP YANBU I had a car crash once when driver in front flicked their fag out of their window and blew into my open window into my eye.

and ive also had my jumper burnt by a wavy fag, and DC when she was knee high had her hair burnt too by a unsmoked one.

Yanbu! I set fire to my friend's hair when we were about 15 - she had lots of hairspray (think 90's crispy perm) and it went up insanely quickly. I haven't smoked for years, but it certainly taught me a lesson about not waving my fag around!

She burned your child? I would have knocked the cigarette out of her hand and bawled her right out. I bloody hate that kind of idiocy. It sounds like you were remarkably restrained.

Why were you so close to a smoker?

OP was probably close to the smoker because she was in the queue at the bus stop. If her bus stops are anything at all like the ones here, they are too close together, with very little room to walk by. Wouldn't surprise me if someone in my town had the same experience as the OP.

I also hate it when people light up but don't smoke. Inhale, FFS.

what an arrogant cow, though - she damaged something with her idiot-stick and then gets cross with you?

try to ignore. What goes around does come around. If you see her again stand well clear!

HeySoulSister, are you serious love?

What a horrible experience. I was burned as a child by a cigarette someone was holding down by their legs - this was at my face height.

It is completely irresponsible to wave around a burning object and the only person at fault is the person waggling the ciggie.

I didn't realise she was actually smoking until she waved the fag around.

A smaller child would have got it in the face.

Couldn't you smell it?? It was a bus stop, op didn't say a queue, so if I spotted someone smoking I'd have moved myself and my dc away

And yes apricots, I'm 'serious' hun...

Just to clarify then, do you think OP was BU because she should have taken evasive action?

In the town I live you would be really hard pushed to avoid anyone with a cigarette in their hands frankly