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To expect some common courtesy from husband?!

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FluffyPingPong · 01/08/2014 17:57

Husband got in from work at 4. I made him a cuppa and he layed on sofa watching tv. Baby woke up at 5:30, I brought him downstairs and DH said a quick hello then went off upstairs.
I assumed he was going to the toilet, but when he didn't return I shouted up to ask him what he was doing (because baby needs to be fed, and I need to prepare dinner too) and he shouts back "nothing". It's muffled, which is when I realise he's in the bedroom with the door closed! (We NEVER close the bedroom door unless baby is sleeping). I shout "are you having a nap?" And he replies no. AIBU to be annoyed? He clearly IS having a nap, as he is laying on the bed with the door closed! I don't mind if he's tired and wants to sleep, but I've been at home with DS all day, looking forward to him coming home from work... Then he just swans off upstairs to sleep without even saying a word to me, and claiming that he's not! Why else would he close the door?! Is he being rude or AIBU?

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ilovesooty · 01/08/2014 18:05

I'm confused. How do you know he's lying on the bed if the door is closed?

Mumof3xox · 01/08/2014 18:06

My oh does this

I have no solution

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FluffyPingPong · 01/08/2014 18:06

Swift replies would be appreciated, so that I can adjust my mood accordingly if I'm being unreasonable about his non-nap when he eventually arises! Or I might just go in there and rip the covers off him Grin

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JenniferJo · 01/08/2014 18:07

I think he's hiding so he doesn't have to help with the baby or the dinner.

TENDTOprocrastinate · 01/08/2014 18:08

Tom tank?

morethanpotatoprints · 01/08/2014 18:08

He was probably having a wank or watching porn Grin
Just tell him he has to pull his weight and he is being an arse, he should be a part of the family when he comes home.
Even if he is falling asleep he can put a bottle in a babys mouth, surely.

WeeClype · 01/08/2014 18:09

I'm on the fence.....I have been known to say I'm away upstairs to have a tidy up but instead lie on the bed and have a lovely nap Blush Blush

Longdistance · 01/08/2014 18:09

I'm with Jennifer. He's hiding.

hamptoncourt · 01/08/2014 18:10

Take the baby in to him with it's bottle (unless BF) and cheerily say, "Here you are, I,m off to cook dinner."

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FluffyPingPong · 01/08/2014 18:10

Sorry, because I also shouted up to him "why are you in the bedroom doing nothing?" And his reply was "because this is where the bed is" Hmm
Half of me feels like a crazy lady who's being so unreasonable and should just leave the poor man to sleep... Confused

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FluffyPingPong · 01/08/2014 18:17

What does Tom Tank mean?
He's definitely sleeping as there's no tv in the bedroom and his phone is downstairs. Plus the baby's fed now so if he was hiding it would be safe to come out!
Dinner preparation was only for him and me anyway... But he's gonna have a shock if he's expecting to wake up to a nice cooked dinner for him. He can sort it himself. My behind is firmly placed on the sofa and won't be moving until he gets up!

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hamptoncourt · 01/08/2014 18:22

Fluffy it's rhyming slang love.........

Good for you - dinner for one Grin

Itsfab · 01/08/2014 18:29

Words need to be had.

DH got the baby once he came in so I could cook our meal but he wanted the baby what with no seeing him all day.

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