To want to Karate chop DH's arse off the sofa?

[MrsWinnibago]

I really, really want to do it.

He's got a week off work and he's spent it superglued to the sofa watching shite on his laptop.

He literally sits there ALL FUCKING DAY!

We went out on the weekend with the DC and ok he did take the DC swimming and to the opticians yesterday but otherwise he's just sat there.

I want to scream at him.

I keep fantasising about chopping him off the sofa in the manner of Bruce Lee.

He's on holiday.

Yabu, he's on holiday. If I had a few days off to just do nothing I would live it, and hate if anyone was nagging me.

I LOVE the image of someone being Karate chopped off the sofa

He's on holiday, YABVU. Sometimes I don't feel like doing much on my days off.

He presumably works at least 7 hours a day the rest of the time, plus the commute etc? Let him relax.

So when does op get her holiday sitting on her arse?

They have kids to look after to, why should that fall exclusively to the op?

One day sitting around,fine. Then he needs to pull his weight

And when does the OP get to relax? I'm assuming that she's running around doing housework and looking after dc

I work full time, and if I have a day/week off, I want to relax too, but I still have to help with the house stuff!

X posted there glen [grin[

If he's on holiday from work then he deserves a few days down time. I can see it would drive you crazy if he done nothing with the Dc/family but he has.
Suggest something to do together for the weekend.

But he has done things. He took the kids swimming and to the opticians.

Has the OP asked him to do any jobs/help with stuff? Or is she assuming he has psychic powers?

Great minds talisa!

Why should the op have to ask him to be a grown up and take full part of family life?

He's taken them swimming and been to the optician CarbeDiem. In a WEEK.

Plus out last weekend Talisa in the same WEEK.

Unless op has specifically requested him to do stuff that he's ignored/refused or they've had a conversation previously about him sitting around on his days off then I don't see the problem.

Why are some posters assuming the OP doesn't work at all?

you don't need special powers to cook a meal, wash up, tidy round the house. You just need to do your share. Since having children, neither DH or I have EVER just sat there and done nothing.

Some very odd responses here. In what world is it ok for an adult to sit on his arse on the sofa all day, assuming family life is going on around him. OP should not have to tell him to do things. The default setting should be do what needs to be done, take part, and then both adults can have time to relax when it's possible.

If he'd wanted a 'quiet week' then why book time off during the kids holidays?

I can't believe that some people think it's ok for a parent to spend pretty much a whole week sitting on their arse!

OP, come on, enlighten us. Do you work? Are you exaggerating about how little he's done this week? Because if this is true, I would be very pissed off indeed and I would have to tell him so.

Arse sitting and down time depends totally on age of DCs and relative physical and mental demands of his work vs OPs work, household, child care duties.

I'm a SAHM to teen DDs who entertain themselves and even do a bit of cooking and tidying. If DH wants to sit in his study and chill for some part of his holidays, that's fine.

All of them is not fine, because there are certain DIY and garden jobs that aren't my domain. Also spending some time with your family is simply polite and necessary.

However, however many hours he worked, when the DDs were small, he was required to spend a lot more family time than one morning in a week.

Small DCs do my head, I'm 100% certain working was easier, than entertaining small DCs also they are really boring, from perhaps 8 DCs become quite good company, toddlers just try to destroy their environment and kill themselves.

Has the OP asked him to do any jobs/help with stuff?

Presumably he is aware that there are children living in their house, so surely he could make a reasonable guess that they will need supervision. The OP might even have thought that he would like to spend some time with his kids if he is usually at work all day.

Exactly DoJo

Why do people think that these men need to be mollycoddled into seeing what needs to be done? Do we need to be told? Drives me mad.

Sorry I disappeared! Life got in the way. To answer questions...>DH works full time and I work part time from home.

I am finding it hard with him here as he's not being very good re looking after DC....we've had a good talk though and turns out he's been feeling very tired...unnaturally so...I realise looking back that he's not been himself for about a month. He's vegan (quite recent) and I suspect he's iron deficient.

He's agreed to get a blood test.

As a veggie I usually take a good multi vit and extra B vits. Try Solgar brand.

He's convinced he only needs to eat the right foods to be ok but he doesn't eat them in high enough quantities. I'm so irritated that he won't get supplements. Thanks Cereal is there something I can buy with iron in it do you think? He won't go to the GP.