To be dreading the decorating?

[HumptyWasPushed]

First world problem, I know.

My flat hasn't been decorated since I first moved in, eight years ago. Before that I was in a refuge for several months having escaped dv. I painted, got it just how I wanted it, before I met DH and DC followed, etc. This place was/is my haven: made all I'd been through 'worth it' IYSWIM.

So now it's come to time to redecorate. DH is sanding walls down as we speak, while I'm hiding in the bedroom sobbing, dreading weeks of upheaval, and change. I feel so ungrateful! Aibu to be upset?

Oh I absolutely hate it and it's even worse of Dh I are doing it "together", it's one of the few things guaranteed to spark a row.

We now have a routine of every few years, we go on a cheaper than usual holiday and pay someone to decorate while we're away.

Weeks of upheaval.. how big are your rooms? Get stuck right in and it'll be done in no time.

8 years.. my husband would love you I get bored really quick and will change the colour of a room without telling him on the spur of the moment

Thank you Frontier. I guess that the flat symbolises the beginning of when everything starting to go 'right'? I feelil I'm saying goodbye to an old friend! Stupid, huh?

or is it because it's the emotional attachment of how far you came when you did it all up yourself the way you wanted.. making that haven?

You will like it when it's done, you can really tell the difference when a room is freshened up.

Gamer .

And yup. You hit the nail right on its freshly painted head!

Then it's natural to feel a bit weird saying goodbye to all of that.. let yourself grieve, let it all out and leave it behind you. You've come a long way by the sounds of it.

You will enjoy it when it's done, I promise.

Thank you.

It will be the home that you share with your family, not the place where you demonstrated your independence - they are both fantastic places to be (and if you don't have to do it all by yourself this time then surely that's for the better!).

Not by myself, no. The two people who helped me through that time-without whom I probably wouldn't be here- are helping. Time to move on, I guess? And I talked DH into letting me paint the kitchen pink and black!

Sounds perfect!