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selling things given to you

16 replies

superbagpuss · 31/07/2014 18:03

my DC are very lucky that people have given them clothes and football boots etc

we have got more than we need but I am thinking ahead to two sets of school shoes, new wellies etc that I will need to buy for school

aibu if i sell some of the stuff we have been given to buy stuff we need?

everything was given to me with none of it expected back if you know what I mean?

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anyoldname76 · 31/07/2014 18:05

I would ask if they wanted it back 1st.

BeanyIsPregnant · 31/07/2014 18:08

If your sure none of it's expected back? Not really sure how you can be unless it was handed over with a 'do with it as you please when your done'
Tbh, I would only sell them if you are really really struggling for money, and then id make sure that the money was spent investing in bigger of those items, but ideally pass on the items and request that they do the same!

kinkyfuckery · 31/07/2014 18:09

If it was given to you, and not loaned with expectation of return, it's yours to do as you wish, imo.

Bowlersarm · 31/07/2014 18:10

It doesn't sound quite right to profit from something you have been given for free. Could you ask if the givers want them back first?

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superbagpuss · 31/07/2014 18:10

I checked at the time and was told to do what I wanted

I have football boots from size 11 to size 2 so don't need new for years Grin.

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TheGirlOnTheLanding · 31/07/2014 18:11

I have a bit of a problem with this. If anyone has given us anything that we can't use or we don't need any more, we make sure we either pass it on to someone who can, or give it to charity. Making money from someone else's' kindness feels wrong to me.

OverAndAbove · 31/07/2014 18:12

I think it's much better karma to give them to someone else. I've given away masses of things to friends and family and when they ask what to do with them afterwards I just say to pass them on to other friends or the charity shop.

arethereanyleftatall · 31/07/2014 18:12

Sorry, I disagree. This would be wrong. Everything I have been given is either passed on or charity shopped.

caroldecker · 31/07/2014 18:20

Please check with the giver - they may have another recipient that could use the stuff - many threads on here about gifted things being sold pissing people off.

caroldecker · 31/07/2014 18:20

Please check with the giver - they may have another recipient that could use the stuff - many threads on here about gifted things being sold pissing people off.

caroldecker · 31/07/2014 18:20

Please check with the giver - they may have another recipient that could use the stuff - many threads on here about gifted things being sold pissing people off.

NickNackNooToYou · 31/07/2014 18:26

If you were given it free you should pass it on for free.

unless you can get serious money for it

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superbagpuss · 31/07/2014 18:27

OK carol decker I will check with her again

I feel a bit weird about it too, but I have no useful candidates for them so will probably charity shop

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BackforGood · 31/07/2014 18:32

I too work on the principle that if I accept things given to me, then I should pass them on freely too.
If you spend money buying stuff, then fair play, sell if you think you can get enough for it to be worth your time, but if you've been given it by friends/relatives/neighbours/colleagues, then it seems only right to give your stuff away too, once you've finished with it - be that to people you know, Freeglers, or charity shops.

PickleMyster · 31/07/2014 18:34

It's a bit of a difficult one if they are a present then I feel it's up to you to do what you want (all you are doing is swapping for something else)
But if someone is kind enough to give you something that you need and then you sell it I feel as though you are profiting on it.

I found myself in a situation a while back, a friend (a) lent me some maternity clothes (some had been passed onto her by her friend (b)), when i'd finished with them I offered them back to (a), she told me to either charity shop them or pass on to someone else, I charity shopped them, then I unexpectedly bumped into friend (b) who asked me for her maternity clothes back. That was uncomfortable explaining to (b) that I didn't have them anymore Blush.

choochootrain1 · 31/07/2014 18:34

I think it would create pretty bad feeling to sell on things given to you.

At risk of bringing FB into this, I buy/sell on a few FB groups and every single day there's a drama over someone selling something on or selling it for a higher price than bought etc

That said, I was given an item by 'friends' who later stabbed my family in the back.- I happily sold it on (and blatantly so) bad taste I know...

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