To think that if you forget you are meeting someone....

[DamnIWishIWasYourLover]

You can't get in a strop 2 hours later when you remember, and the person you are meant to be meeting is now busy?

Arranged to meet (quite flakey) friend this morning at soft play at 10.30. When she hadn't turned up after half an hour I tried to call her but she wasn't answering her phone. I tried a couple more times, and sent a text. No reply.

Ended up staying at soft play for 2 hours with my DCs. We had a good time. Friend has just sent me a text saying she's sorry but she forgot about this morning but can we do something this afternoon instead.

I have replied saying the DCs and I are all tired and we're going to watch a film this afternoon, but we'll see her another day later in the holidays.

She then replied saying that her kids are looking forward to seeing mine and that I'm being unfair and that everyone forgets plans sometimes (she forgets all the time!)

I'm going to stand firm. She needs to learn that the world doesn't run to her schedule and that she needs to think of others.

Yanbu, she's not really sorry if she has the cheek to get upset with you.
Yes don't let her make you feel bad, next time she hopefully will think twice before being so flaky.

Stand firm! Tell her your kids were also looking forward to the previously agreed time that you managed not to forget and this afternoon doesn't suit you.
Did she apologise?

I have to admit, I've dropped so called friends who behave like this. Why bother wasting your time.

No she didn't apologise; she always blames everything on everyone else. Nothing is ever her fault.

I think I'd reply well, then it's a shame you weren't here when I was for the 2 hours this morning. You'll just have to tell your kids sorry, but you forgot. I'm not spending all day in a soft play.

What a twat she is.

I think ignoring will send her the message you want. Don't engage further. She knows how you feel

I don't think I'll be bothering with her again, unless she makes a huge effort and instigates something. Each time we go anywhere I spend half the time babysitting her kids anyway as she always has to go out for a cigarette every 15 minutes.

You definitely aren't being unreasonable here!

YANBU, she sounds appalling. Enjoy the film!

YANBU. It's not even as if you were deliberately 'punishing' her for her behaviour. What has happened is a simple direct consequence of what she did. She forgot. You were at softplay. Your children played without hers (Oh my, the world didn't end because she wasn't there!) and so now they are tired.

Why should you punish your children (and yourself) by dragging them out to see her when it was her uselessness that is at fault!

Just leave her to strop.