To think this is not a favour? At all!

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My friend rang this morning and I was absolutely up the wall with DD (3), had been up half the night with her and she hasn't stopped whinging all day long. She's usually an amazing kid so I feel so unprepared for these teenage like breakdowns and general nastiness!

Anyway friend kindly offered to take DD out with her and her DS for a few hours, I protested saying no way it wouldn't be fair on her etc as the two of them can be hard work together. She insisted and I was so grateful but NOW it seems she's had a better idea, is on her way over with dvds for the kids to watch, in MINE!! This is the exact opposite of what I need/thought was happening.

AIBU to be seriously pissed off and think this is not a favour?

It sounds as though she's taken your protests on board and thought a bit more deeply.

You never know though, it might turn out to be a great day after all.

Perhaps she thought the kids would distract eachother and you could catch up while they play and have a good old rant.

It's still preferable to being alone with a little devil child (for that day)

Sounds like she thought it would be a good compromise given your initial protests

But can you go out for a bit and leave them to it? I know you can't do chores at home that way but you can get a mental break, maybe do a supermarket shop, go for a walk or sit with a coffee or in the park and read/gaze into space for a bit?

Hang on, you protested and then gave in.
Maybe she thought she had been a bit pushy

You should have said yes at the beginning and it would have been quite clear.

She probably thought you could do with a good moan and chat while the kids watch the dvds?

I think the protesting bit will definitely have confused her.

If you needed and wanted her to take her then she will probably have assumed you wouldn't have protested. I know I would have.

I think she is just trying to do something for you.

my sister came around yesterday with the expectation of taking my 3 to the park to give me a break.... she came round sat on the sofa for a couple of hours made a huge mess 'playing' with the kids and left. Kids still hyper house is now covered in tents / playdough / pens with no lids / drinks spilt etc...

She had told everyone she was taking them to the park (facebook) and got lots of praise from friends and family about how much she 'helps' me out - this is pretty typical but i cant bring myself to reply BUT YOU DIDN'T TAKE THEM ANYWHERE on her fb messages.

I think I was indeed being a bit unreasonable! I decide no to my house, couldn't face it!! But we all went out and had an amazing day!

Thank you all once again, mumsnet comes up trumps!