I know, strange title but it was the best way I could think of to describe it!!
I was good friends with someone for a couple of years, when she suddenly went all cold and off-ish with me. I was really upset and asked her if I'd done anything wrong, she said no. I couldn't think of anything I'd done wrong, so I just left her to get on with it. She was then good friends for a while with a friend of mine that I had introduced her to, and was spending loads of time with her, and then suddenly she went cold with that friend too and dumped her.
This was around 3 years ago. I have stayed on polite terms with this friend, and we are still Facebook friends. I have noticed over the past 3 years that she gets through friends at a rate of knots! It's like she decides to be friends with someone for a reason that's beneficial to her, has an all-consuming friendship for a few months, and then dumps them.
Last summer I noticed that she had two friends, whom she described as her besties, that she was spending a lot of time with, and was always tagging on Facebook. All three of them went on holiday together, with their children, and there were lots of statuses about how amazing it was to be on holiday with her best friends. And then a few months ago I noticed that she didn't mention them anymore, had a snoop and noticed that she is not even Facebook friends with them now!
The summer before, she became good friends with another woman that I know, and was even made godmother to this woman's child, and I know that they don't see each other any longer either.
More recently, her latest bestie was another mum from the school. They were doing everything together, and having loads of nights out, and spa weekends. I then noticed a few weeks ago that this other woman kept writing on my ex friend's Facebook wall that they must meet up soon and have a night out, and my ex friend just ignored her, and I realised that this latest bestie is now dumped too.
Does anyone else find this sort of behaviour quite odd? If someone is my friend, then unless they do something awful they are still my friend. I love my long term friendships and would hate to just move from person to person and effectively use people. I remember there was a girl in my year at school who was a bit like this too, and after a few years we all cottoned on to what she was like. It was like she moved from person to person to suit her needs at the time. Say, if she fancied a particular boy, she would become best friends with his sister, and then ditch the sister when she no longer fancied the boy. Strange.
AIBU to find that kind of behaviour very odd?