AIBU to feel slightly miffed that my friend announced her holiday on Facebook first?

[luckypeach]

Backstory: we do not live near each other anymore but still keep in touch regularly by whatsapp to share news e.g. new job, interview or just general chit chat about our day. Neither of us has had a huge amount of money to spare so something like a holiday is a 'big' deal to us.

Anyway, friend has announced via facebook that she is off to exotic location for a holiday. I am over the moon for her but it feels weird adding to the zillions of comments saying 'lucky you' when it would usually be something she'd have been dying to tell me (or text me) herself first. AIBU? Fully prepared to be told I am. I know she is not obliged to tell me or anything like that, just a bit that it has come out of the blue and she will know I have only found out through FB.

boeyface you are spot on. Couldn't have put it better myself, thank you.

this is not about the holiday at all, it feels like she doesn't want to share the news with me anymore, something we'd normally have done. I do wonder if the friendship is changing and I feel sad about that.

I think if you're both a bit skint and haven't been able to afford holidays in the past, then sending you a text or ringing you is slightly more insensitive, it's a bit more oneupmanshippy if you're worried about that, because you can't really ignore it looking like sour grapes, but on Facebook you can. I don't get the whole announcing holiday thing but it looks like she can't do right for doing wrong.

You must be hard work as a friend! It really doesn't matter!

wigglesrock is right. If I was your friend I'd have a whole moral dilemma next time I booked a holiday. Just be pleased for her! Maybe someone else is paying for it. Maybe it's a last minute thing. Maybe she knows you can't afford one and didn't want to crow down the phone.

Give her a break! Friendships do change with distance but you adapt.