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To be grateful for having a boy so I don't have to worry about ponytails, plaits, braids and bows!!!

57 replies

BocaDeTrucha · 29/07/2014 15:02

Was out today and saw a mum desperately pulling on dd's fine hair (aged 10 months) to put it into one of those micro ponytails like Yorkshire terriers wear whilst her dd screamed and squirmed. Then finished it off with a clip on bow. I can't do a french plait (my girls world head of hair was clearly wasted on me) and I just think those tiny weeny sprouts of hair look ridiculous. I feel blessed I have a boy as in the country where I live, bows, bands and clips are de-rigeur from birth for girls.

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iliketea · 29/07/2014 15:53

YANBU - dd's hair is half-way down her back (she's 4). Try as I might, I cannot persuade her to get her hair cut into a nice chin-length bob (I know, I am the mother, but I can't pin her to the hairdresser chair!). And it is a faff - I can manage a pony tail and skew whiff bunches, but that's it, and combine that with the drama every bloody morning of brushing and tying up - it's a nuisance. At least when they get into teens, they can do there own hair grooming; if I let dd do it herself now, she end up in a big tangle with 17 random hair clips in it!

Mrsjayy · 29/07/2014 15:55

Dd1 loves a bow she has messy wavy hair says if all else fails thro w a bow at it Grin yabu though if people want bows or ponytails in their girls hair what harm are they doing although those hair bands on babies look a wee bit silly

Mrsjayy · 29/07/2014 15:56

Dd2 loves a bow rather dd1 would stab u in the eye with a bow

Mrsjayy · 29/07/2014 15:57

I used to be a dab hand at the frech pleat most of the 90s thats how I wore my hair

MammaTJ · 29/07/2014 16:04

You'll be able to do his hair like this soon though!

To be grateful for having a boy so I don't have to worry about ponytails,  plaits,  braids and bows!!!
vickibee · 29/07/2014 16:08

Agree costs a fiver at our local barber for short cut plus tramlines

StrawberryGashes · 29/07/2014 16:12

Yes boca, they are just normal ghd's but very thin so theyre easier to use with short hair, he bought them from a barbers though so that makes them all manly Wink

DefiniteMaybe · 29/07/2014 16:23

I love playing with my dds hair but she's not so keen. We've been practicing keeping pigtail french plaits in her hair ready for starting school in September, I've got it down to taking 8 minutes which when added to helping her with her shirt and tie is going to make us in a rush every morning.

Ericaequites · 29/07/2014 16:34

For school neckties, teach your daughter to take it off by loosening at her neck, the way drunks do. Then, one just has to pull on the short end to dress again. My brother did this in school, as he has dyslexia and dyspraxia, although only diagnosed with the former.

EndoplasmicReticulum · 29/07/2014 16:35

Oh I don't know, I have a son who hates haircuts. He wriggles and cries and flinches, have managed to take him to the barbers once and he refuses to go again.

He's 9. Hair is now getting a bit long, so will need to work on the plaiting soon I think.

clam · 29/07/2014 16:39

My dd told her whole class that her mum was "rubbish at hair."
Her teacher told me. Blush

stealthsquiggle · 29/07/2014 16:43

Clam - snap. She also told her pony club instructor for good measure.

It's not me. It's her wriggly hair.

Skylander1 · 29/07/2014 16:46

I have a three year with beautiful golden curly hair, it's beautiful at least once a week anyway, rest of the time it's just a frizzy mess.

Heathcliff27 · 29/07/2014 16:47

YABU, my son takes longer to get ready than my two daughters put together, if I were you I would reserve judgement until he's older

Idontseeanyicegiants · 29/07/2014 16:47

Oh god don't mention tattoos! He's currently counting down the days until he's old enough to get one of his own, only 4.5 more years to go Grin
Your DS's idea sounds rather cool though.. Wink

CrumblyMumbly · 29/07/2014 16:56

Snap Skylander1 - I feel quite relieved if I've managed to wash my dds hair without her scaring the neighbours with her screams. There's no way she would even have a pony tail let alone clips/hairbands etc. I feel quite sad when I see all the pretty hairstyles at nursery.

BigBoobiedBertha · 29/07/2014 16:57

YANBU. I ordered 2 boys for that very reason. Wink

I have barely ever combed their hair since the day they were born (it doesn't really need it tbh). I have enough trouble with my own without worrying about theirs!

And for all who say that their DS spends more time on their hair than the average girl, that is the point. They spend their time. Their mothers don't have anything to do with it. It is those formative years when the child's hair is the mother's responsibility that the OP is talking about. If my boys want to have a perm, dye their hair purple and have a mohawk they are welcome to do that (when they have finished school) just so long as I don't have to do it. They can wear a powdered wig too - DS1 would look very fetching with ringlets.

Thurlow · 29/07/2014 17:00

YANBU.

One of my very first thoughts, on finding out we were having a girl, was to wail "but I don't know how to do plaits!!!"

However you can keep it in a bob and just scrape it into a ponytail or clip the fringe back as necessary. It's not too hard. Yet.

I am going to refuse to let her grown out said fringed bob until she is old enough to wash, dry and style her hair herself. This is genuinely going to be one thing I am not going to budge on, especially as she seems to have inherited my irritatingly fine but thick hair.

imip · 29/07/2014 17:04

4 dds here, dd1 beautiful long head of hair. She's 7, but it'd make an adult weep. Grows like wildfire. Very girly-girl. I always put her hair up for school because of nits.

Dd2 6 she's a tomboy (apparently). A short bob, but grows like wildfire, so it frequently touches her shoulders before it gets cut again. It's very, very thick. Suits her short unlike dd1 who could probably wear it anyway.

Dd3 has really fine hair. Terrible, but she is girly girl also and wants it like rupunzel, apparently. Fucking rupunzel...

Dd4 is 2.5. It's probably chin length. Can't really tell what type of hair she will have yet.

I'm pretty fussy and like their hair up when at school/nursery, because I have suffered the hell that was all of us getting nits. And doing little girls' hair is my guilty pleasure!

Mine is long too, btw. I have a theory that mums and daughters tend to have similar hair styles. Though, I tend to be a chameleon...

Happydaysatlastforthebody · 29/07/2014 17:09

Ha ha op. My teen dss spent just as long and just as much money on hair products as their teen dd sisters.

As said up thread gender is no barrier to hair drama.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 29/07/2014 17:15

I think it's quite cool too, Idontsee - so I am rather torn between 'Oh how cool' and 'Oh my god, my baby's perfect skin is going to be ruined!' I think it is going to be quite expensive (someone who knows about this sort of thing has said minimum £300) - and he has pretty expensive taste in clothes etc, so I am hoping it will take him a long, long time to save up for it!

MrsRogerSterling · 29/07/2014 17:17

I have 2 dd's aged 7 and 3 and have never had to worry about ponytails or plaits, they both have bob's. I love bob's on little girls, so cute and no effort required, both have a selection of hairbands to wear if they feel the need for an accessory.

Laundryangel · 29/07/2014 17:17

2yo DS likes to have his bunches put in every morning like his 4yo sister. As he has a traditional boy hair cut, this was causing me more misery than doing his sister's long, fine, wavy hair was, especially when he started throwing a tantrum if I used the wrong bobbles, put the bobbles in the wrong place etc. I had a major victory the other day when we were in the supermarket & I spied some Peppa Pig hair slides and said I would buy those as a treat if he used those rather than bobbles. It now takes seconds. Like the bobbles were, these are handed to me each morning just before we go out to the car to go out for the day or to nursery.

itsbetterthanabox · 29/07/2014 17:18

If the girl has long hair just brush it and put it in a ponytail for school. If it's short then it's the same as most boys. Lots of boys have long hair too. Short hair can be just as annoying as you have to get it cut much more frequently.

Ledkr · 29/07/2014 17:20

Dd2 has a head of orange curls that I ignore for as long as possible before tackling it with bribery and threats.
The mere mention of a plait or pony tail sends her into a meltdown of "idonwannaponytailinmyairmommy"
So I don't bother.

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