To be sad... Just because!!

[helenenemo]

Right.... I just feel sad.

I've been single for 4 years now. I don't see any opportunity that I'm going to start a relationship so that's not going to change. I don't have a career... I have a job. I live with my mum and dad. I use mumsnet because I can live vicariously.... Will this ever change?!

It'll change if you actively try to change it?
What's making you feel saddest?
Use that as your starting point.
Think about what you'd like to be doing and make a few small changes to start to work towards it.
It's horrible feeling that you're stuck in a rut. If you now know that it's making you unhappy, you owe it to yourself to try and make the life that you want.

If you're sad just because, it might be depression.

Life doesn't just fall in your lap. You have to go out and grab it.

And no, yanbu to feel sad but ywbu to allow it to continue :)

I agree with Turtle.

It wont change unless you change it, yes you can feel sad but only for so long if you don't try to do something about it. Take up a hobby or classes or something and maybe meet someone there, friend or relationship - it doesn't matter, go back to college, take night classes (MiL is a tutor and prefers teaching night classes to day ones because the 'calibre' of student is better apparently) just don't let life pass you while you amble away with a worn out routine.

I know it's depression. But, as The Verve say, the drugs don't work!

I feel like I just want to wallow, drink wine, smoke cigarettes until whenever!

Don't get me wrong, I do try. I do go out. But it doesn't seem to work for me.

I suppose there becomes a point when you can't try anymore. When you accept your future is feline related.

Fucking hell.. Woe is me!!

YANBU to be sad at the current state of things.

But you can turn it around. ADs may help - if the current drugs don't work, go back to your GP and try different ones.

Regular exercise has been shown to help with improving mood, plus it boosts self esteem. Is there a local gym you could join? Or martial arts club? (I started karate as a fat unfit 40year old, have made so many friends!)

You only need to accept a feline related future if it's what you want.

I know you're against a feline future, but what about a dog? It'll force you to get out of the house everyday and walk around. They'll provide small talk, especially if they're adopted, and you might even meet someone while you're out and about. Exercise is good for fighting depression, and animal companions bring a little comfort.

I had a dog when I was going through an anxiety disorder. He was a ball of nerves himself. Helping him, and getting out of the house everyday to walk around the block really helped pull me out of it. Sadly, I had to give him up when I had DD because he couldn't cope, and needed a child free house.