To think dh should support me in toddlers routine?

[Dizzywizz]

Ok, so I think this is hitting hard to dh as it is to do with ILs and so he is taking it personally.

Basically ds has a routine where his nap finishes no later than 3 and he goes to bed at 7. Last 2 weeks ILs have had him one day a week and he keeps having late naps till 4 so he will not go to bed until really late.

This week they didn't even get him home until 8.30pm when it should be 5.30pm! I can't speak to them as don't speak the language, asked dh to make sure he has early nap but dh says it doesn't matter if he goes off routine once in a while - but it's not him putting him to bed! Am I being over the top, or is dh bu?

Well, after such a long time together your husband should have helped you to communicate with his parents, by helping you with pronunciation. That in itself is so disrespectful. What will happen when your Ds starts to use his second language? Will your husband undermine you or support you? It's important to address this now.

Thanks for the responses! Paxtecum - I'm at work all day when they have him, so can't nap unfortunately.

Rosemary twinkle - that's a good idea, I will try that. No, they don't have any English - my Cantonese is prob better than their English and mine is rubbish!

That's what I think caeleth, and if it's that inconvenient then don't have him!

Sandberry - yes I think you have hit the nail on the head. I think all the children in their family went to bed at goodness knows what time, which is their choice but not what I want for my child.

Marmitejamandlush -- this is a bone of contention, I think dh thinks I am lazy but goodness knows I have tried to learn, books and online courses. And I think he could make so much more effort to teach me, but he just can't be bothered.