In thinking Mother and Baby car parking spots....

[Writerwannabe83]

....are actually for parents with babies/toddlers?

It was always my understanding that the wide spaces are for parents who have car seats and pushchairs to contend with, not for parents of 10 year olds who just want to park nearer to the shop, like a family that I saw today?!

I'm only moaning because I've just twisted and scraped my back trying to remove my car seat from my half closed back door door, in a very tight parking space whilst trying not to scratch the car I'm parked next to.

I was secretly fuming at those in the Mother and Baby spaces who surely shouldn't have been there, like the one I mentioned above.

And breathe

The idea of 'extra needs spaces' is a really bad one!

I don't think the two can or should be combined but why can both not exist alongside each other?

Maddening because some parents don't seem to be able to differentiate between legally prescribed parking places reserved to meet the basic human rights of a minority group and a nice perk provided by the supermarket to gain your custom. This results in them having a very entitled attitude which drives them to confront disabled people and make their already difficult lives that much harder.

Its supposed to be offensive and hurtful hazey but it wasn't aimed at you. That is unless you drive a 54 plate jag x type and parked it less than 30 cm away from the next car in the co op car park an hour ago?

I'v been saying for ages p&c spaces should be further away from the stores to deter non parents using them.
Disabled are entitled to park in them though,

How do you tell how well a person is by how they look though?
Fluffy i have spinal damage and now problems with both knees and shoulders yet im 30 and look fine and very much younger. Some days i could cry from the pain. Occasionally i do wear my heels even if its just to go to do my shopping as it makes me feel good. I don't go out the house much anymore. I used to go to the pub, clubs etc get dressd up in my boots and heels etc before this all started, but ill never do that again, so sometimes i like to wear my heelsto feel good and to remind me of good times.(sad i know).
You would probably think i was fit and able so please, dont judge as you may not always be right.

As for someone having a go
At a disabled person, words fail me.

Just get your shopping delivered

It is offensive and hurtful because it is a handy way of saying 'fucking retard'. Just call the person an arsehole if you want to be insulting.

Have to agree any variation of retard makes me cringe as well.

Tbh pleasejust that is not enough of a reason that p&c spaces should not exist - perhaps signage could be changed to ensure all are aware that a blue badge holder still takes precedence over all spaces including p&c spaces but some people being dicks is not enough to indicate that th p&c should not be available - they are v useful for parents with toddlers and especially babies.

There are twats in every part of society - don't punish the rest of us because of that.

Thankfully I live in a real world where people I choose to be friends with wouldn't dream of using such terms

The only time I heard someone I know use the word 'retard', I pointed out how insulting it was.

The people you know in real life must be disabilist wankers.

Why would you want to use a term which is so demeaning to people with learning disabilities?

I hate it when people say "we managed without them"! Surely, there are thousands of modern conveniences that make life easier although people managed without them for generations - electric kettle, microwave, escalators, banks open on Saturdays to name but a few. Should we not use things that help make everyday life allittle easier?

OP, YADNBU

ds2 and ds3 come home and tell me when they've heard the word retard. They find it more newsworthy than fuck or anything else. Must be having a learning disabled brother.

Justifying why you have to use it, knowing it related to people with learning disabilities is fucking weird imo. Why would you do that?

Why would you want to use a term which is so demeaning to people with learning disabilities?

Because I really couldn't give a fuck.

what a lovely person you are bigdog

Oh you're one of those.

Have said it before but having a learning disabled child is a great filter.

I know you won't give a fuck, bigdog, but I hope you are banned.

I know you won't give a fuck but using terms like fucktard and retard make the lives of people with learning disabilities harder.

I know you won't give a fuck but my 4 year old son with disabilities is one of those people.

I know you won't give a fuck because you are, oh so cool and full of yourself, despite being no better than something I would wipe off my shoe.

Don't get upset hazey - let's face it bigdog444 is not someone that is going to add anything positive to their friends lives. Like I said, ds1 is a great filter - love having him.

How nice that on a thread where a lot of posters are trying to explain nuances of disableist language, along comes someone who 'doesn't give a fuck'. Way to go.

let's face it bigdog444 is not someone that is going to add anything positive to their friends lives

How wrong you are. BTW the word you wanted was friends'

You are right, Saintly. I just hope I don't come across too many Bigdogs in rl.

But, ahem, MNHQ, if anyone was around last night or today??

Thankfully the real world isn't full of terminally offended, PC do-gooders.