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AIBU?

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That this Judge has let us down

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Bongobaby · 28/07/2014 10:00

I'm at loss and still frightened that this judgement doesn't go far enough in protecting me and ds from ex. I do not want ex at my front door for any reason what so ever as I think is my right. Long history of him abusing emotionally and physically, intimidating and verbally abusive. Backed up with police attendance and recorded. Recently recieved suspended sentance for two domestic violence incidences with use of knife against his recent ex partner, she now has an unlimited restraint order on him. Also used knife against me whilst holding our ds. Basically he is a throughly nasty piece of work.
Did have a non molestation order of he was not allowed within a hundred yards of my house and had a panic alarm fitted. Judge has now removed the hundred yard restriction and kept the part of the non mol that says not allowed to threaten or use violence against me. The judge wrote in his judgement that he found ex to be very aggressive, evasive and his evidence highly unbelievable and was concerned about ex total disregard for me that he found ex behaviour at an unacceptable level, judge also found that ex lack of remorse for his conviction of dv very concerning. But didn't find it as serious to warrant the hundred yard exclusion anymore in my case.
I'm terrified of ex and feel that he will now just up the ante of intimidating me at my home. I feel so let down by the court.

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Bongobaby · 28/07/2014 10:48

There is a power of arrest attached to the non mol but why let it get to that stage of calling the police and using up their valuable resources. Aibu in thinking that the full non mol should have been left in place to avoid any such instances.

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DrunkenWhore · 28/07/2014 11:33

YANBU the way the justice system in this country is so lenient on domestic violence offenders is absolutely appalling. Angry I'm sorry that it's been lifted.

ICanSeeTheSun · 28/07/2014 11:36

Can you appeal, failing that move to within the 100 yards of his other ex as her protection will also protect you.

Bluebelljumpsoverthemoon · 28/07/2014 13:20

That's horrific, I agree that you should appeal, the judge is being outrageously careless with your safety, he know how violent he is and allows that? I can't imagine what you're going through right now, I hope you get justice.

sparechange · 28/07/2014 13:30

I wouldn't be hesitating for a millisecond about calling the police if he was anywhere near your house.
That is not using up valuable resources. It is using the police for exactly what they are there for...

NeedsAsockamnesty · 28/07/2014 15:01

Have a chat to rights of women

www.rightsofwomen.org.uk/adviceline.php

They are specialists in this subject

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