to think this is rude and pushy?

[woodlandfairypool]

I am a member of another Internet forum and on a stupid whim, a few months ago started a thread saying I thought I was going to be single forever.

Then about a month later, my life massively changed and not for the better. Unexpectedly the thread was upped by somebody (male) saying they were single forever and he sent me a message asking to meet me. I agreed, although I did say first I'd rather not as I was going through a hard time and wouldn't be great company but he insisted that was fine and so we arranged to meet.

He was okay but as I had indicated I did find the night hard. So I sent a message explaining this. He then kept saying he could help me through my journey which I ignored in the end!

I don't know why I feel cross about it, but my thread turned into a stupid one where people were trying to match me with any single man regardless of whether I felt up to it or not! It was as if the message was 'if you're both single what's the problem!'

Grr stupid thread. But I thought it was rude!

Buzzard, that isn't really it - the initial thread was pretty lighthearted to be honest and certainly wasn't hand wringing or lamenting.

It was more to be polite than anything although I accept (have already accepted) I should have been firmer about saying no.

In any case I think SGB has summed up how I felt pretty well, I don't need to keep saying it.

You have a habit of starting threads that you don't want people to comment on Op?

If you say "I won't be good company" you are inviting someone to say "no you won't" or "I don't mind". If you mean no, just say no. And no again if necessary. And then ignore.