We live in a different country from both our families and have done for a very long time (20 plus years). This has always been a bone of contention with our families (DB lives next door to DM and DBil lives next door to DMil so we are the big exception), but has gotten a lot worse since DD arrived 3 years ago.
We do our best to go back to the home country and when we do we don't take holidays as such but spend our time seeing relatives. We go back at least twice a year and sometimes three times, taking DD over from 4mo onwards. DM comes to visit once a year but not many of the other relatives bother, e.g. DFil is retired, in good health and can afford it but hasn't come to see us because his GF doesn't like flying (a problem she managed to overcome with surprising regularity when her son was abroad though!).
So now we are in the home country for a couple of months waiting for me to give birth at the beginning of September, so here is everyone's chance to overdose on DD. What do they do? They all leave for a month's holiday! This is typical where we come from but the grandparents are all retired so could take their holidays at any time. We are on our own, in a city, in the heat, me very pregnant with a young DD - all of which is fine, she's our child, our responsibility and we are used to looking after her by ourselves but AIBU to never tolerate any more complaints and whining from the relatives about lack of contact in the future? If they can't be bothered to see her while she is next door to them then they need to make more of an effort in the future.
End of my whining. :)