She should ask before using my stuff

[Cherryblossomsmile]

Our babysitter is lovely. Dc adore her and we have always been happy with her.

We came back along our street tonight and our bedroom light was on. We could see someone at the window. We thought one of the kids.

She came down the stairs as we came in and when we asked if everything was ok she said yes the kids have been fine Nd not woken up.

After she left I went into our room and found my ceramic hair curling wand was hot. She was fully made up and on her way out after leaving us. Aibu to expect her to ask before using my stuff in my bedroom ?

It's just not on to go into people's bedrooms uninvited. I wouldn't dream of doing what she did. Personally, I'd be annoyed enough not to have her in my house again because I'd question her boundaries: does she think your cupboards and drawers are fine for her perusal, too?

Well she replied denying it saying she just used the mirror.

I said that I was disappointed with her response and
Uncomfortable that she had been in our room
Mentioned the hot ceramic styler.

She then admitted that she had turned them on but thought better of it and not used them. I got an apology then but I think it may have come too late. I can't trust her can I?

If she had responded straight away with a sorry and taken responsibility I could've put it down as a silly mistake but she tried to wriggle out of it.

Sorry to go against the grain but Im not seeing what is so horrendous about using a curling iron? You say it was out on the dresser so no rooting around was don

As long as she is looking after your children what is the harm in using a curling iron?

Billygoats, she was trusted in someone's house, went into their bedroom without permission and started helping herself to the things in there- do you not think that is very rude?

OP, no, you can't trust her. She tells lies and she invades your privacy. I don't see that thick a line between that sort of breach of trust and a babysitter taking money from a drawer, to be honest.

Billy it's what else she done thats the problem not the irons. She's untrustworthy now...

Oh dear, cherry, I'm disappointed too! You had to squeeze the truth and the apology out of her. I think a teenager could be forgiven for desperately wanting to try out a posh hair styler, but not for lying instead of apologising to her employer. Shows a bad attitude.

Damn :(

I can't stand people using my products whether I'm aware of it or not. I'd hate that. And since I'm such a worry wart I'd also be thinking what if she'd forgotten to pull the plug on the tongs?

I did lots of babysitting in my youth (and in fact now for friends). None of the people I've ever sat for would think this was in any way acceptable.

Doing her face in the bathroom mirror - fine. Wandering uninvited into your private space - totally unacceptable (whether she used tongs or not)

I wouldn't use her again personally.

Untrustworthy. Not a character trait you would want in someone caring for your DC

I would definitely stop using her services. She should never have been in your room.

You said she was fully made up. So was she also using your makeup? Super unhygenic if so and another breach of trust.

Sadly, this might only be the only thing you actually KNOW about.