To think people are being sexist?

[Imsuchamess]

Me and dh could only afford to have one person learn to drive and own one car ATM. We have three dc one on higher rate care and low rate mobility and I myself am on low rate mobility and I do most of the running around shopping and have a twenty minute walk to school.

Dh is perfectly fit and able and works a 15 minute walk from work in a very stable job.

So we decided I would learn to drive then in a few years when my insurance dropped dh could learn but we would still keep one car.

Well I learnt to drive two years ago yet me and dh are constantly bombarded with questions about when dh will learn to drive by family friends and work colleagues.

Aibu to think if dh had learnt to drive they wouldn't bombard me with questions about learning to drive because I am female?

Well i suppose you don't know that do you because you can drive. Have you spoken about DH learning? Is there more to this that we don't know?

I don't know your family and friends, so maybe you're right, but I got asked when I was going to learn when my husband was the only driver in the household.

I think most people assume that being able to drive is a sort of default position and that anyone who doesn't would like to, male or female.

Personally i was asked constantly when i was going to learn to drive. I don't think it was a gender thing, more peoples utter outrage that a grown adult couldn't drive.

Wow - theoretical sexism! You said the intention was for your DH to learn to drive too, so why is it such a weird question?

I don't drive and dh does and I constantly get asked when I'm going to learn (even though I'm perfectly happy and love walking and public transport).

Before I drove (and husband had a licence) people bombarded me, asking when i was going to learn. People do it regardless of gender.

I do agree there's more of an expectation that a man should drive.

As a female that didn't drive I got asked when I would a lot, and a lot of eye rolling when he would drive me places.

I don't think it's gender specific but I do think it's age specific My MIL in her 70s has never driven a car and no-one ever asks her why. But I only have one friend in my age group (40s) who doesn't drive and it seem to be regarded in a similar way as not being able to read.She has tried but it's just not for her. I think other peoples crass reaction to it upsets her more than not being able to drive.

Probably, I find it strange when I hear someone doesn't drive but even stranger if that person happens to be male. I passed my test at 17 which was almost a full year before DH (because he was at uni and a city where public transport was common) and it irritated the sh*t out of me when he came home being taxi to him.

I'm female and have been asked countless times when I am going to learn to driver, it always seems to be assumed that learning to drive is something everyone does. I think you are being a little sensitive, its not a sexist thing

I think if a family have a car other people just expect the adults to be able to drive. They're probably curious as to why he hasn't bothered til now.