To think it would be nice to be offered a drink if DH is making one?

[JuanFernandezTitTyrant]

He says I should ask if I want one. But a) I often don't know until he's coming back with his drink and b) isn't the nice thing to do to offer? It's what I do if I'm making one for me.

YANBU.

LTB.

YANBU. My DH always assumes that because I don't drink coffee very often, there's no point him asking if I want one when he's making one for himself. But I do drink it sometimes, and the offer would be nice!
He should return the favour if you ask him when you get yourself a drink.

I'm glad you think so. It's such a little thing, but it drives me potty.

YANBU. Just make your own next time. See how he likes it.

If he does this regularly I'd stop making him one.

YANBU. Well, not so much with a cold drink unless you are making something more exciting than a glass of squash. But I thought it was law to ask anyone else in the house if you were making a hot drink?

I'd stop doing something else small and petty to annoy him too. Like making a sandwich without telling him you're having lunch.

How about you making yourself a meal and not one for him. After all he didnt ask you for it.

Wife drinks service shall henceforth cease. See how he likes it

I agree.

Once you stop doing it, if he says anything, you can point it out to him.

petty but satisfying.

Yanbu my exh used to only make himself a drink even if I was only in the other room. It's rude and selfish IMO.

My DS threatened to leave home a few months back after we had a terrible row over him
Making a cup of tea and not offering one to me, he's mother, who he saw was busy watering the garden. It didn't matter that I was in garden I should of been offered a cup of tea. My DH did say I was in the right but wouldn't be drawn into argument.

my rule of thumb is that if it would take less time for me to ask than to make the cuppa, then I would offer

So in our small terraced house, if DP is in the attic and id have to trek up two flights of stairs to ask him, I wouldnt bother. If hes in the next room, I would.

But I am maybe a little selfish about offering because DP rarely thinks to make one, but will always have one if I'm making them..

My DH never makes me a drink. He never makes himself one either. He just doesn't bother but will always have one if I offer

I fell out quite badly with DH about this exact thing not very long ago even though it send so petty. I always make coffee for both of us in the morning every single day while he walks the dog. One morning I was later coming for breakfast as I was sorting laundry and he came back from his walk and made himself a cup and not one for me. I was so cross I couldn't hide it - just felt unappreciated. So I understand. He's never fine out since!