To feel freaked out that ex's friend contacted me on POF?

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So after a horrible breakup with my ex, I am still recovering a month later. To cheer me up, my friends and I had a girly night in and together we all signed up to Plenty of Fish just for a bit of fun. I totally forgot about it and have just logged on again to find that a friend of my ex has messaged me on there.

All he has written is "hello Miss" but it's really freaked me out. I didn't know him very well but he must remember me from meals etc with my ex's friendship group. I'm worried now that he's going to tell my ex and all his friends.

AIBU to block and delete his message, then delete the whole account? It was only meant to be fun but I feel like it's turned a bit weird now.

This happened to my best mate but it was her ex's brother!! She blocked him but stayed on POF as she wanted to online date.

You have to decide for yourself if you want to be on there or not? However, it's none of your ex's business anymore, who messages you or whether you're on an Internet dating site.

What's the bloke who messaged you like?

If he's nice (from what you've seen) why not message him back?

What have you got to lose? Unless you think it'll kick something off with your ex, but it really has got fuck all to do with him and his friends (just out of interest why do you think that's bothering you?)

The bloke is ok. He's the brother of my ex's friend so they're not close but they do know each other. He is very popular and confident so I'm a bit wary of his intentions. Have blocked him for now but not sure if I should chat with him.

The reason I'm bothered about my ex is that I'm worried his friends make fun of me for being on a dating site or criticise me. You're right though, he treated me like crap at the end and I'm NC with him anyway.

Who cares what his friends think or what they say to him. You go and have fun with whoever you want. Hes your ex hes not important.
If you do go on any dates be careful.

POF is full of weirdos in general, I'd delete that account and try another online dating site for fun instead

I met my now DH on POF but it took sifting through A LOT of weirdos. 3 years worth!

But HE was on there too, so he can't out you without outing himself...
Nothing to be ashamed of anyway.
Do you think he might be interested?

Why would they think less of you for being on a dating site? Shows you're moving on & his friend is on it,no need to overreact.
Blocking him is unnecessary. Just say hi back,what's he like?

Well, he's breaking the bro code by going after his friend's ex. I wouldn't give him a reaction. Just say hi back, keep it breezy. Don't let him know it bugs you.

The bro code GodDamn? Does 'bros before hoes' () really count for anything over here?

It's totally up to her and the bloke as to whether they give a toss about the ex, unless you're thinking that he's doing it to make fun of the OP?

That'd be pretty extreme and a bit creepy.

Maybe he really likes her?

Um maybe he's just saying a friendly hello? Costs nothing to be nice so I'd just say hi back! Blocking him seems a little extreme!

Delete delete delete. Or block block block.

Some of these exes with friends on POF like to get their friends to mess with your head for fun. It's not a great experience. I would advise extreme caution and suspicion.