To have only one of my cousins involved in my wedding?

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When I say involved I don't mean one wont be doing, I mean one will just be sitting down and watching.

My Mum's sister has 2 DC. I was going to ask her DD who will be 13 if she'll be one of my bridesmaids along with my sister and my fiancés brothers little girl.

However her other DC is a boy who will be 10 - I'm just worried if he isn't involved it comes across as some form of favouritism. I don't favour either of them as they are both so different. One I can sit down and talk about books, music, clothes etc and the other I can run around the garden with, talk about video games and muck about with.

Anyway if I am being unreasonable for not involving him do you have any ideas how I could involve him?

Maybe to have him carry the rings down the isle? I'd love him to be involved too, but just not sure how.

WIBU to just have cousin as bridesmaid and would their mother likely be offended/upset for her DS?

Could he hand out the order of service as people come in?

A junior usher - have him alongside one of the adult ushers handing out order of service. Bridal party, buttonhole etc.

would ask said 10 year old's mother before thinking about this any more.most 10 year old boys i know really wouldnt want to dress up and carry rings.

It was just one idea green I can imagine he probably wouldn't he's a bit of a whirlwind still.

Junior usher is a good idea - he could go along with my BIL who is very patient.

I only used one of my 7 cousins. My wedding wasn't child free or anything, but I didn't think the under 12s would fancy parading around after me, there are too many of them and they're all quite busy kids and 'spirited' so I had my eldest cousin who's 15 as my page boy and our sisters as bridesmaids. The other issue was if I had my cousins in the wedding party, DHs family would take the knock because he has some young cousins too, and only one little girl who is very pandered to and spoiled and I imagined a stealth bridesmaid situation going down like a poster on here mentioned, lavender something I think she's called

Ask him and his mum, OP. He's 10 and can say if he really wants to do it or not and let him know you won't be offended if he isn't interested.

I think it would be nice if you could involve him. DS was the only DN on both bride & groom's side not be be involved in a family wedding which I was a bit sad about - especially as all his other aunts and uncles got married before he was born and every other DN has been involved in weddings and are likely to be again.

Yes think will ask him to meet and greet maybe help his Dad who is good with cameras to take photos (have a professional photographer too so no worries if a few photos are blurry etc).