To be upset that someone I used to be VERY close with has failed to acknowledge my recent birthday?

[Earlybird]

I was a bit surprised when there was no phone call, email, text or call on the day but thought she probably was busy or it slipped her mind. But now that it is 5 days past, I am feeling agitated.

We are not nearly as close as we used to be, but I am miffed. We have always acknowledged birthdays in the past. We saw each other a few weeks back for lunch, and all was fine then.

Would you say anything, and if so, what?

I'm another one who wouldn't expect it TBH.

It's my brother's birthday today, and he rang me up about something else - I completely forgot what day it was and didn't think to say happy birthday. I'd be slightly embarrassed if my friends remembered (without, say, facebook warning them), because I know I don't remember theirs.

I used to make an effort for all my friends but no one returned the favour so I don't bother any more now.

I would leave it and let her come to me. Very close friend did the same thing to me last year and I have come to the conclusion that this friendship is dead in the water now.

woman for goodness sake go and tell your husband it's your birthday while he can still make it up to you. Not telling him will make it worse not better.

I flipped, cried, ranted and had a shout... He's sure it's tomorrow... Clearly my pregnancy addled brain has got the wrong day... I must inform the midwife of the corrected date of birth... Oh and the registrar, and HMRC- oh and my pension provider

My family forgot me at Christmas once. Not so much as a card. I knew they remembered Christmas itself (facebook evidence of fun) so it must just have been me they forgot. I don't mind if friends forget birthdays, or even family tbh, but I'd be mad if DH forgot my b'day.

I barely remember DH's birthday. If I do its a day before "oh fk" moment. YABU I'm afraid in my book.

womaninthewilds I hope you poked him with a stick and he has since come to his sense?

"My sister didn't acknowledge mine this year. Unbelievably hurtful. We had recently fallen out, but to not even send a text... sad"

Neither did mine, and it's a pretty significant number this year, but we haven't fallen out or anything. Gutted and I had a little cry about it. I should be too old to care but I do.

We are also not big on birthdays, and if I want to be sure of pressies/cards, I let everyone know it is my birthday coming up- it's like the bush telegraph the week before someone's birthday in my family and everyone rings everyone else up to remind them. Otherwise I don't remember.

I'm sorry this is such a big deal, it wouldn't perhaps bother me unduly but if you see it as a sign of something larger and becoming more distant, that's a bit different. In general, though, best to remind forgetful people I think rather than get upset and miffed.

Marking my place

Surely the point is that it matters to the OP and in her world it is customary to acknowledge birthdays. Therefore it is worthy of mention and reasonable to be upset, when out of the blue it doesn't happen.

The fact that some of you don't ever bother really misses the point.

OP, YANBU.

woman just think if it this way - you are going to be able to hold this over him for years.

Happy Birthday have some , and

Agree with Nanny. OP Happy late Birthday and YANBU. At all.