Aibu to expect the dh to do the ironing?

[MummaB1014]

I'm 38weeks pregnant. I am freaking melting! Also suffering with horrific pelvic pain.

I do most of the housework and child care. Hubs does work bloody hard too. But I keep staring at the ever growing pile of ironing and feeling rage that he hasn't done it! I've not asked outright but I've dropped very obvious hints ('that ironing really needs doing, but I'm just too hot'). In my opinion NOT ironing is not an option, both hubs and I hate looking scruffy and we certainly wouldn't let the smalls.

Aibu?

Andrew, if anyone told me to do something, they'd be told to fuck off and I couldn't respect a man who would do as he's told by me.

I would suggest ASKING him respectfully but directly, if he could do it. Dropping hints and building resentment doesn't count and if he is a decent human being, he will do it.

Shirts only.

SHIRTS ONLY.

and bobbly bedding init.

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OP, if it was a grumpy no, I guess he'll go to work in crumpled clothes tomorrow.

someonestolemynick You are right, of course, and I was not being entirely serious - but I hope this bloke does it after he has had his shower. In his shoes I'd do it first and then have my shower when I was thoroughly hot and sweaty but whatever floats his boat, as long as he does it.

Bedding???? Bedding? Who except my weird DP irons bedding? Is that a British thing?

YABU to iron anything tht's not going to a wedding or an interview.
YABVU to call dh "hubs"

However, if you have any ironing that actually needs to be done, YANBU to ask your dh to get it done.

Life is far too short for ironing. Hang clothes up properly to dry and you don't need to iron them. Hang your smalls up too

In this weather you can put creased t-shirts on kids and the heat of their little bodies will make the worst of the creases fall out. Just fold things properly straight out off the line/out of the dryer and they will be fine. IME it's hanging around in the ironing pile that really makes thing creased in the first place.

Find someone who'll do it for you then tell him he has to drop it off to them - and pay.

I agree with Andrew that he should've ironed first & then showered. But perhaps he'll shower to cool down, iron in his smalls & then have another shower

My DP already does all the ironing... He does his shirts, and his work stuff and very occasionally something of mine. I don't iron my stuff because I just don't care that much (work in publishing so don't need to be really smart). And who has time to iron bedding?

I ironed for the first time in a year on Friday . It was a bridesmaid's dress so couldn't really walk up the aisle all crumpled for my friends wedding. Anything less important than that stays crumpled.
I vote you just leave it and put up with crumples.

I dont care if dh had 2 broken legs and 2 broken arms if he told me to iron piles of washing I would tell him to stick it up his arse.

If you do cave and end up ironing, just iron your stuff and things of the kids' that can't possibly be not ironed (ie they look like they've been sat on). If it's not weather appropriate, don't bother.

And do it in the morning, before the heat of the day is overwhelming (I'm getting hot for other hormonal reasons)

He can huff over his own crumpled clothes.

And people whose clothes don't crumple if they hang them up "properly" must live in polyester. Most of my winter clothes need little more than a quick hiss of steam at the most (and most get tumble dried and come out almost crease free) but all the boys' cotton shorts and my lightweight cotton trousers look like screwed up paper bags however they're dried and can not get away without a thorough pressing.

If they're his shirts then he can bloody do them, or be creased. His choice.

If it's your stuff then ditto, do it yourself or don't at all.

Not clear what else one could possibly iron that would be worth the effort or the angst tbh.

Well if you only iron work or school things, then the only things that need ironing at the moment, are whatever he wears to work - so he can iron them or put up with them crumpled. Problem solved.

Just leave it.

Only work shirts really need to be done. You are not working so no shirts. No school so nothing vital for Dcs.

If he wants work shirts done he can do it. If you are generous you can alert him to the fact you are not doing it.

Problem solved and no one has to ask anyone anything.

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In my house it works exactly like carmine Rose's btw

And people whose clothes don't crumple if they hang them up "properly" must live in polyester. Most of my winter clothes need little more than a quick hiss of steam at the most (and most get tumble dried and come out almost crease free) but all the boys' cotton shorts and my lightweight cotton trousers look like screwed up paper bags however they're dried and can not get away without a thorough pressing.

^^Thai.

Most of my clothes have to be ironed as I like to look Not Crumpled.
And bedding is soo comfortable and smells fabulous if it's ironed straight off the line.

I don't know how you all get away with ironing so little.

Sadly redsky I work for myself so no maternity leave except when I actually go into labour, meaning I have the things I need to wear for work too. The smalls have dresses and tshirts that really do need ironing too.

I normally do all the ironing because I don't mind doing it. Hubs does work really hard (40hr week ft job, then prob 12 or so hrs in evenings) so I'm more than happy doing the house stuff.

He's said he will do it so I'm happy! He can huff all he likes...

Thanks all for commenting!

But if the choice is melting as she is 38 weeks gp who cares about looking crumpled?

And not worth having a row over or making someone else uncomfortably hot.

He's said he'll do it! Excellent.

If he fails, set Terry on him

Thank him when he's finished. He doesn't deserve thanks but thank him anyway!

I would care about looking crumpled! Hot or not, the ironing still needs doing in this house. I've done half a basket this evening with the back door wide open. Absolutely fine!