How long until a one year old starves?

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Ok, bit of a flippant title but the heat and pregnancy is making me want to scream.

Dd is 1.6 yrs old, just had an extended stay at grandmas ( due to hospital visit for me etc.) and by all accounts has had an abundant amount of sugary snack and pretty much nothing else.

No I'd pretty much prided myself on doing everything right, dd ate a variety of veg and fruit from weaning etc. and figured the damage would be quickly fixed.

Well, no. Today I've had a screaming tantrum at everything I've put down. Which was a few options for each meal but she won't have any of it.

She's had plenty of fluids. Aibu for not giving in and giving her shite?! She's a healthy weight, one day with hardly anything but some fruit won't hurt will it?

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Posted too soon. Quite normal not to eat much in is heat, I wouldn't worry, but I think you'd have more luck offering more "summery" options.

Crayons, you missed that essential part of the toddler diet. Apparently they are way tastier than beef hot pot.

I offered excruciatingly tiny portions, one slice of carrot, four peas, a bite of fish finger. I made meals that could be eaten cold and stored in fridge for this stage or alternatively I did not offer my child a meal, I let them run around and play and I made myself a lunch and sat and ate it. Sometimes they would come up and be curious and I'd then suggest they get in their high chair if they wanted some. Cue tantrum so I'd shrug, turn around and keep eating. If they wanted something they'd get a tiny piece of everything and nothing more until everything had been tried. Lots of tantrums but it passed.

Oh also nothing to drink that was sugary and milk only at waking, meals and bedtime. Water (very disgusted) at other times and usually thrown.

My DSD was like this. She's 4 and I do my best to give the kids a varied and balanced diet. This includes serving veg at meal times, no process foods an meals cooked from scratch when possible.

She eats complete and utter shite at her mums house. She can't cook won't fucking cook

After she's been here for a few days she will eat more and more of what we give her as the days go on as she knows that she won't be getting anything else. She also knows there's no treat unless she has made a good effort to eat most of her dinner and try a bit of everything. Those are the conditions.

When she first comes back from her mothers though she's a nightmare. She won't eat anything. She asks for sweets, chocolate and crisps because its what he's Ben use I whist she's been at her mums

Erin I have a strange dd, she only eats everything cold

She usually stares at the food until it's cold and then eats it.

I've never had much luck with traditional cold food. She's never really taken to sandwiches.

I hadn't thought of quiche though...will try that tomorrow!

Well, I'm so old that I probably don't have any hormones any more. But I'm feeling ranty, partly because it's hot, and partly because my internet connection keeps dropping.

Why, oh why, do grandparents do this? My grandmother only fed me good food; my (late, lamented) parents-in-law only fed my children good food; I'll be doing the same for my first DGC (currently 7 months). The thing about grandparents "spoiling" their grandchildren shouldn't be about filling them up with sugary crap, it should be about them lavishing care and attention – that's the "treat".

No-one ever died from not having chocolate and fizzy drinks and crisps.

But, yes, it's hot weather, so hydration is the top priority, and people of all ages can go off food in times like this. Maybe, if you've got a coolbag, you could pack up small amounts of good foods (sandwiches might work if cut to the size of postage stamps, though you need white bread for that), and just let her graze from her "picnic basket" tomorrow?

She'll soon be back on track. But it's infuriating that you've been left dealing with a problem that shouldn't have arisen in the first place.

I can't speak for anyone else but for me I just mean offer food the OP is happy for the child to eat and let her eat it if she wants to or leave it if she wants to and not make a fuss about it or attempt to cajole in any way

This.

I wouldn't be offering more than one main course either. I'd put in front of her what had been cooked followed by whatever fruit she would normally have after then the meal would be over.

Unless she's tried quiche before, I wouldn't introduce it tomorrow. For not just provide foods she is used to without comment and take them away without comment too.

The mantra "No child will starve themselves" is fine although it doesn't apply to all children with ASD for example.

Missing a meal or two can be really helpful because what we fail to notice quite often is that food tastes a lot better if you are properly hungry.

Make one family meal and toddler either eats it or not. Let them decide and you can just relax and chat about the day (not the food). Accept happily what ever happens. Don't offer alternatives but do reoffer the unbeaten meal/snack again later in the day if its appropriate. We can't afford to pander in our house, not enough cash - my 4 will eat all sorts happily and like trying new things. We've had the odd minor blip like yourself but they quickly readjust as we don't have treat food (even children's sweetened yogurts) in the house (except for special occasions like birthdays)

Make one family meal and toddler either eats it or not. Let them decide and you can just relax and chat about the day (not the food). Accept happily what ever happens. Don't offer alternatives but do reoffer the unbeaten meal/snack again later in the day if its appropriate. We can't afford to pander in our house, not enough cash - my 4 will eat all sorts happily and like trying new things. We've had the odd minor blip like yourself but they quickly readjust as we don't have treat food (even children's sweetened yogurts) in the house (except for special occasions like birthdays)

SUCCESS!!!

Dd happily tucked into her porridge oats and fresh summer berries this morning.

Raw carrots and a spoonful of Greek yoghurt for a snack

And even deigned to have a bit of whole meal toast and strawberries for lunch ( those are the bits she ate ha)

At least if she doesn't eat her dinner I can be happy she hasn't starved today.

( have got the pitchfork ready as we are visiting grandma tomorrow, there shall be no bloody shite!)

Some of my children were very picky. I trained myself to think that my job was to OFFER food at each meal time - not make them eat it. It took years but I can do it now. Offer it, if they leave it it's up to them. A couple of my children are just seldom really hungry - should be lucky adults who are not overweight like me!